I've been 'MOM
-ING' for over 30 years. With eleven children to raise, experience has been a great teacher. One thing stands out more than anything when it comes to being a 'good' Mom and that is TAKE IT EASY!
As mothers, we tend to over react to our children's growing cycles. Wondering how to handle the phases our children go through. Just remember, these are just phases, and 'This too shall pass!'
When things get overwhelming for me, I find a quiet, private place, (it's usually the bathroom); take a deep breath, say a heart-felt prayer, give all my frustration to the Lord and then take all my love to my children. Remember, when we're out of sorts, all we usually need is a good HUG, not a lecture...our children are the same.
Right now, I have a teenager that is about to drive my husband and I nuts. Her attitude is very CONTRARY. She always does and says the opposite of what we want. This is when my husbands humor comes into play and my deep breathing exercises come in handy! I repeat to myself, "Take it easy, she'll be just fine." Usually in an hour or so her attitude has completely changed and life goes on.
Now, there are times when concern is legitimate, and dealing with these issues may require different tactics, but, for the most part, if we relax and enjoy (sometimes, this can be easier said then done) we'll ALL make it!
If you've come up with some innovative ways to deal with these folks we're raising, I'd love to hear about it.