Agreed. You need to make this a conversation about privacy and boundaries. Tell her she can play with herself all she wants IN PRIVATE. She can go to her room if she wants to, but not in front of other people.
It is perfectly healthy and normal. It doesn't mean she's going to grow up to be a nymphomaniac or anything, she's just learned that she can do something that feels good, and like any other bright and curious child she's exploring that.
Take a deep breath, you're all going to be fine.
YES, my daughter has always been like this. When she was 4 she would touch herself and I had to explain to her that it was ok and normal. But this is somethgin she must do in private. I explained its ok and it feels good but she must do it in private (her room or bathroom) and she must wash her hands afterward.
I remember doing this as a kid and heard it was sooo bad, I always felt like I was doing something wrong. I felt guilt for years because of masturbating. I wish my mom told me that it was ok and I wasn't doing something bad... Now I know it was normal and I hope to teach my girls that this is ok and healthy as long as it is done in private in a safe place.
Hope this helps,
I'm happy to report that since this discussion started, she only had 1 "mishap"! She's been doing very well... Daddy talked to her - Good Daddy! LOL
Thank you for all your advice, which is what we decided on! I'm very proud of her, and am so glad I wasn't the only one who went through this with their child :D
Have a terrific week and thank you all once again!!!!!