It's good to read posts that help us learn new things as a mom, but I think many of us also enjoy reading how other moms struggle as well. I guess it feels good to know we aren't alone on certain topics in parenthood.
Why do you think moms like to read blogs that are honest about motherhood and don't sugar-coat things?
I think it's because it can be entertaining and yet reassuring. Moms are able to relate to what the honest moms are saying,even though they would never admit it in writing themselves. It allows them to release frustrations, share in experiences,but not be in the spotlight to possibly receive negative feedback..
Great point Bianca! I think many moms, myself included sometimes, feel they will be seen as "bad moms" if they are honest about their feelings. Some days I don't like being a SAHM, but I used to be afraid to be honest about it. But not anymore. Motherhood is a tough job, and as much as we love our kids unconditionally, we are bound to have some "not so nice" feelings about it from time to time. Why feel guilty about it?!
I wish more moms were honest about motherhood, particularly about transitions to more than 1 kid. A lot of moms I know just say, "Yeah, it's hard, but it gets easier soon!" I like to hear details....preps me for future experiences and then helps me realize it's all normal when it hits me!
I absolutely agree! Alot of moms think it's important to show the appearance of "Mrs Clever" to be considered a good mom and to make the job look like it's easier then slicin pie. Women are all about appearance and when you see Jane over there with 5 kids and is a size 6. You think "damn it" if she can do it so can I. Not knowing that Jane probably went through 2 outfits before she arrived because her kids left the paint open and she spent 15 mins crying in the bathroom cause she felt bad for not feeling fulfilled in life.
Honesty, would relieve alot of stress for moms reassuring them that they are not crazy or alone. It might also make them a little more relaxed when the children make a mess or jump on the bed. You have to ask yourself if we were surrounded by more honest women would that change the standards we make for ourselves?
I think we love it because it makes us all feel like we're in this together. I find the same when it comes to my spiritual walk as well..I am drawn more to the people who are 'real' than the ones with all the 'answers'.
As for what you said about the transition from one child to two...a wise woman once told me the biggest changes are when you go from no children to your first, then from one child to two children."in fact," she said" after having two it doesn't matter if it's 2 or 8 it's pretty much the same after that."
Being on the other end as some of my kids have started to leave home (and come back and leave again) it's nice when it's only 1 or 2 having dinner at home, almost like it's just me and my husband again.
I know I started my blog because I had trouble finding blogs that talked about having teenagers that sometimes have real issues. I knew there had to be others who would like to know they aren't the only good parents with kids that sometimes screw up.
Amen to that! All kids make mistakes, so why not be honest about it. We all might learn a thing or two from those stories. I am a family therapist who has worked for 6 years with teens, so I completely know what you mean!
Hi everyone-I just joined. I want to feel as if I am not alone when it comes to the difficulties of being a mom, especially when you are trying to juggle this and a full time job. Nothing is ever going to be perfect-you feel guilty for not giving more at work and feel guilty for not spending every waking minute with your kids, and I like to hear that others realize this same truth.
Hi everybody! I'm new here. I'm a mommy-to-be! I was surprised at how difficult pregnancy can be and how I'm bombarded by people about how absolutely beautiful the experience should be. Right now, it isn't! With my head down the toilet and my face breaking out and all, where's the beauty??? So I started an honest mommy blog and joined this club because I want to meet other women who are upfront about motherhood--how wonderful it is, yes, and how awful it can be... and how I can deal with it! And so far, I like what I'm reading here. Everyone's honest about the joys and the pain, whcih makes this new adventure more real.