Both of us divorced... both of us have kids. We are wedding in less then a month and I have one 4yr old boy... and he has one 14yr old girl, and 8yr boy.
How do we merge? How do we stop talking about my kids... your kids.
During the brief, on the beach ceremony... we have decided to make it just our family as the wedding party. No groomsmen, maid of honor or ring bearer. Just us... and our kids. And at the end... there will be a sand ceremony where each of us pour a vessel of sand into one larger vase... to symbolyze us merging.
But it's still difficult sometimes... with discipline and rules for one child but not the others.
I love tips. I started a few things here and there... which I talk about here: http://ournextchapters.com/2010/04/29/a-hubby-and-a-bonus/
What are some ways you have merged your family? For them to feel like one?