For many of us, Mother's Day stirs something deeply loving.  For others, ambivalent feelings abide.  You see, after thirty-three years in the counseling field and drying the tears off many faces, I can accurately say that not every woman feels she had, was or is the "good-enough mother."



So, exactly what is the "good-enough mother"?  English pediatrician, Donald Winnicott, M.D. – an influential object-relations psychoanalyst - believed this type of mother was a different kind of…

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While my topic won't be pertinent to most moms - and for that I am so grateful - it will be to some who are hurting or they know a mom who is.  Please help them out by mentioning their child.  It's wonderful hearing the name of our children whether they are here on earth or in heaven; our relationship with them never ever…

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We are a support group for any woman who has lost a child.  Our purpose is to comfort bereaved mothers.  We offer compassion, conversation, validation, support, spiritual solace and friendship to one another.  At our meetings - and our other gatherings together - no mother ever has to explain why she is suffering or justify why she can't "get over it."  We all know that no mother ever "gets over it" because the sorrow keeps our communion open with our beloved deceased children. But, in the…

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Hi Moms, I want to talk about loyalty vs. blind loyalty in families.



Loyalty is essential for genuine family solidarity.  But blind loyalty leads to family dysfunction.



A loyal family member is faithful to the family's traditions and honors its obligations. A loyal family member is emotionally present with support and encouragement during success or duress.   These unwavering devotions are admirable and observable: just look at how a loyal family member helps another member…

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Dear Moms,



After the death of someone we love our grief experience and overall healing has everything to do with our relationship to the deceased, the intensity and depth of the love we felt for them and our degree of faith in a hereafter.  In the immediate aftermath of a person's death, it's hard to breathe and everything hurts. We feel shattered, bewildered and frightened. Sometimes, however, grief shows us its own timetable and can be delayed or complicated.  I experienced a long… Continue