When we first found out that we had lost our sweet baby girl, I wanted to crawl in a hole and hide. After reading so many stories online while I sat and labored in the hospital, I knew that the road to recovery was long – and there was never going to be a point where we just…got over it. But I also knew that I had a family to be strong for. Life goals that I still wanted to work towards. And a future for our family that still included more babies.
I knew that I had to figure out a way…Continue
I’m naturally a list person. I love the feeling of crossing things off – and getting to the end of a mighty long list of things I’ve accomplished.
But beyond having this achiever mentality, lists are actually what keep me organized and productive – in every aspect of my life. I use digital lists to track my clients and my work, magnetic lists on the side of my fridge to stay on top of all the household items we need on our next Costco trip, a whiteboard full of ideas for different…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on September 3, 2014 at 9:48pm — No Comments
Every now and then, I hear someone gushing and extolling the virtues of cosleeping, or the family bed. All I can think is either they are lying, or have completely different children than I do. I suspect the latter.
Cosleeping sounds like a good plan, on many levels. But then I experienced the reality with my children, and I discovered something…I hate cosleeping.
Added by Cortney Galster on September 3, 2014 at 12:50pm — No Comments
As you probably already guessed (based on the title of this post) – we’re pregnant!
Thrilled, ecstatic, amazed, thankful, blessed…words can’t even describe.
And also: terrified.
I’m freaking myself out while feeling like I’m walking on air. It’s very weird, my friends.
If you’ve read anything about pregnancy after losing a child, it’s exactly what people say it is. And if you’ve been there, well – you told me so. It’s all of this and more wrapped into…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on September 2, 2014 at 9:54pm — No Comments
I was having a conversation the other day with my friend Tiffani about how we used to think – pre-kids – that we were soooo busy. And then we had children. And we can’t remember what we actually spent our time doing back in the “busy” days.
This isn’t a dig at people who don’t have kids. It’s just the truth about reality – it’s impossible to understand how constantly busy you can actually be until you have kids. You parents know what I’m talking about. Having kids magnifies everything…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on September 1, 2014 at 9:32pm — No Comments
My daughter Avery would have turned six this past July. In just a few days she’d be starting first grade. I would no doubt be frantically running around, completely occupied with last minute school shopping for frilly dresses and Queen Elsa lunchboxes and pretty pink bows to clip in her long brown hair.
But Avery was stillborn three weeks before her due date. My daughter’s ashes sit in an urn in my bedroom, a little silver container from Hobby Lobby that gets a kiss every morning and…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on September 1, 2014 at 10:49am — No Comments
So you’ve heard about this thing called an “editorial calendar.” But if you don’t work in marketing, you might not know what the heck I’m talking about. And no matter what field you work in, figuring out how to create an editorial calendar that you’ll actually use can be a challenge. So what gives?
Why they work
Editorial calendars are one of my favorite ways to keep my work organized, especially as it pertains to my blog. It’s a place where I can keep…
Added by Cortney Galster on August 28, 2014 at 8:44am — No Comments
Days like today make me so thankful.
This morning, Ricky played while mommy was productive. We went for a bike ride, had lunch on the deck and played in the sandbox. We went to the park and for a long walk with our friends. And now he’s napping – and I can work again.
I am so blessed to be able to spend so much of my time with him. That I can work from home and still take care of him at the same time – not every day, but some days. That I can feel fulfilled in my career AND as…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 27, 2014 at 4:42pm — No Comments
Before I was married with a toddler, there are certain things that I really never pictured myself saying. In fact, if my former self would have heard some of the things that go on in my house just between the hours of 5:30 AM and 7:30 AM, I probably wouldn’t have believed that this would be my life in a few years.
Does this happen at your house? Here are some of my faves:
Please don’t eat the lotion. Ricky! Don’t eat the lotion!
For some reason, my child…
Added by Cortney Galster on August 27, 2014 at 10:47am — No Comments
A couple of weeks ago, Macmillan Kids send little Ricky a fun new book to read: Little Elliot, Big City. I really didn’t know much about it until we got it – and it’s actually really cute!
Little Elliot is a stuffed elephant living in the middle of New York City. He leads a quiet little life amid the hustle and bustle of the streets, where he feels too little…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 26, 2014 at 4:42pm — No Comments
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately. Thinking about how losing my sweet baby girl has affected our life. I’ve come to believe – or rather, know – that when you lose a child, you actually lose a lot more than that.
Obviously, the biggest and most hurtful piece of what we’ve been through is losing our baby. There’s no getting around that. If May wouldn’t have happened, we would have a week old baby at home right now. But May DID happen, and there’s nothing I can do to change…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 26, 2014 at 12:31pm — No Comments
Some of you already know this – but I am a full time work from home mom. I do quite a bit of freelance writing and marketing consulting – and my baby boy gets to actually be home with me two days a week. It’s like the best of both worlds – and I love it.
For many reasons, a daily office environment just isn’t for me. I’m really efficient – and when you’re graded on billable hours, like many agencies are, this actually hurts my performance reports. I don’t do office politics – I…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 25, 2014 at 3:19pm — No Comments
This past week has been an emotional roller coaster, for a lot of reasons. When my life is emotional, I like to do a lot of cardio. I don’t know why – it just works out that way.
When I feel like doing more of a particular exercise – circuits vs. lifting vs. cardio – I go with it. I figure that if my body feels like it’s not getting enough of a…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 22, 2014 at 4:48pm — No Comments
If you read the blogging better series, you know that I am a H-U-G-E advocate of using social media to market your blog. I talk a lot about Facebook and Twitter, but it kind of begs the question: what about Instagram?
The truth about Instagram is that it is one of the fastest growing forms of…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 20, 2014 at 5:09pm — No Comments
I don’t know about your kiddos, but my toddler loves to create art. Between all of the pieces he brings home from school and his amazing little weekend creations, sometimes I feel like we have toddler art coming out of our ears. But toddler artwork is adorable, so I really don’t mind.
Now, there’s only so many paintings that fit on our fridge – and on the walls of his playroom – before we run out of room. So we’ve had to learn to be selective when it comes to what we keep. I don’t…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 20, 2014 at 11:36am — No Comments
May wouldn’t have happened, I would be holding a just born baby girl in my arms right now.
My c-section was scheduled for 9:30 this morning. As of last night, it was still scheduled – the hospital called to confirm that I would be there by 7 am. Seriously.
Since we lost her, I’ve had this tendency to make the day before a big post-stillbirth milestone much more emotional than the actual day is. So…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 19, 2014 at 12:10pm — No Comments
About two weeks ago, I shared with you guys our favorite toddler books right now. And boy oh boy, did you guys love that post! Your little ones must love reading as much as mine does.
And based on all of your feedback – and some of my baby’s favorite characters – I ordered him some more books. They’ve arrived. And they’re awesome. I’ve detailed them…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 18, 2014 at 5:37pm — No Comments
I’m hosting a Life After Child Loss series to share some of the stories that you all have shared with me. Your stories. Stories to help inspire those who are in the midst of loss and are looking for hope. Personally, I know that a light at the end of the tunnel – even if it’s far away – has been so helpful for what we’ve been…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 18, 2014 at 3:36pm — No Comments
For Christmas, my parents got us a GoPro camera. I’ve been meaning to use it a million times since then, but it took me a while to get all of the needed accessories and figure out how to actually use it. I’m guessing that the intent was for us to use it with the little guy. But for my first “real” video, I’m giving all of you mommies something a little different: a quick makeup tutorial. I get lots of messages from ya’ll saying you don’t have time for make up or that you don’t know how to…Continue
I’m just coming up on my two week marker on this whole “jumping back on the gym train” thing. And I’m still killing it.
I’m averaging about five to six workouts a week, which is pretty amazing – especially considering that a month ago I was happy with one halfway hard workout a week. I’m by no means at my fighting weight yet – I haven’t even gotten my regular pants to fit regular yet, but I do feel better. I can tell that my anemia is pretty much gone, because I have a lot more…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on August 15, 2014 at 11:33am — No Comments