This weekend was amazing. The sun was out, the weather was warm. It was 70 degrees in March – that’s a regular old heatwave for Minnesota!
There’s this distinct smell that comes along with springtime in the frigid tundra. It kind of reminds me of Seattle after a big rainstorm – like a whiff of the coast is coming in with the wind. It’s glorious. It makes me want to pull out all of our patio furniture and start planting flowers.
Of course, it’s still only March, so we can’t go…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on March 17, 2015 at 10:40am — No Comments
I just stood in my kitchen, trying to figure out what I was going to tackle next, while eating spoonful after spoonful of frosting.
That’s totally normal when you’re pregnant, isn’t it?
This morning we had one of our weekly ultrasound dates (super romantic, right?) and then a non-stress test for the little guy. Lots of doctor appointments are par for the course when you’re pregnant after losing a baby.
We were sitting in the ultrasound room and everything was measuring…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on March 12, 2015 at 5:14pm — No Comments
Last week, I was in a meeting with a client who asked about my blog. Specifically, what I write about. This has become a weird question for me since our loss, because I don’t know how to say that I write about baby loss without really going into detail. And that gets awkward, because it’s a highly emotional topic for a professional setting.
So instead of going into detail, I just include it in a list of topics that wind up on my little corner of the internet, hoping that they don’t…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on March 10, 2015 at 5:55pm — No Comments
Sometimes, it just feels like your world collides with something and everything just kind of…stops.
Last week, Lucy decided she was afraid of my laptop cord. So she pulled the whole charging port out of it. I thought, meh, no big deal. I figured we’d have to replace the laptop at the end of the year, so we’re just doing that a little early. I don’t use it a ton, anyway.
So I ordered a replacement, took the longer free shipping option, moved on.
And then I realized just…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on March 3, 2015 at 4:30pm — No Comments
There are few challenges in motherhood quite like feeding a toddler. Moving targets that, once you get them buckled in for meal time, spend more time playing with food than eating it. And what was a favorite meal last week is not allowed to touch their plate this week. Don’t even get me started on getting a toddler to eat their vegetables.
Somewhere between eating choo choo train spoonfuls of mashed avocados and puréed green beans and memorizing the alphabet, kids learn that chocolate…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 26, 2015 at 3:12pm — No Comments
Some days, I feel like the third trimester is a test of whether you’re ready to be a mom to a newborn. First, you stop sleeping. As in, you find that you can no longer sleep for longer than two to three hour intervals at a time without waking up. This is the first test, my friends: your body is preparing you for life with a baby outside the womb.
Then, your child begins to live in the same vicinity of your lungs. This means it takes approximately 4.2 minutes to regain your breath…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 23, 2015 at 4:39pm — No Comments
“Mama, tha baby’s hidin in your belly button!”
Seriously, you guys. Is there anything better than the words that come out of a toddler’s mouth? It’s like, my favorite thing in the world.
Tonight I was sitting on the couch doing puzzles with the little man when I could suddenlysee the little one moving around in my tummy. Ricky thought it was the most amazing thing in the world.
For me, seeing the baby move – and not just feeling it – is like this confirmation that there…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 19, 2015 at 2:30pm — No Comments
My life is based on a schedule. Most days, everything I do feels like it has to happen at a very specific time in order for me to get everything done. That’s what happens when life gets busy – you figure out a way to adapt so that you can actually check everything off of your list. Because, mom life, right?
Of course, that schedule ebbs and flows every week. In the morning, I list out everything I need to accomplish today – even on the weekends. Then I strategize in my head how to get…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 16, 2015 at 5:19pm — No Comments
It’s that pregnancy moment of uncomfortable.
You know the one – where you’re sitting around and suddenly feel a random body part jammed up into your ribcage, rendering you barely able to breathe. And then you sit there in a haze of total uncomfy-ness, trying to make heads or tails of what you can focus on when you really can’t focus on anything, because there is a [insert body part] jammed into your lungs.
And then you read online: move around! It encourages the baby to…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 13, 2015 at 5:07pm — No Comments
Only as adults do people really discover that one of the keys to happiness is gratitude. Being thankful for what we have can be very difficult for kids who believe they can always depend on their parents for whatever they want.
There are a lot of values that parents should instill to their kids, and gratitude should be one of them. Grateful children are not only more fun to be around but also grow up to be strong adults who care about the world around them. In a recent study, it was…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 12, 2015 at 4:41pm — No Comments
A few months ago, at the end of the first trimester, I walked into my OB’s office with zero expectations. I didn’t know whether to laugh with joy that we had made it through the first three months of pregnancy, to cry that I still had six to go or to completely break down over the mental anguish that lies between grief and happiness. And of course, I had to step on the scale.
I refused to look at the number. Knowing myself – and that I hadn’t lost the baby weight from after losing…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 10, 2015 at 1:58pm — No Comments
The second that the third trimester hits, you really start to feel like a house.
My darling husband told me that I’ve really started to exhibit the pregnant lady waddle. Especially when I try to move quickly. He’s a gem you guys.
Since my short term memory has been compromised (thank you third pregnancy side effects) and I’m not so good at coming up with funny retorts before I’ve had my coffee, I just stood there and gave him the stank eye.
But it’s true, I’m pretty sure…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 9, 2015 at 9:38am — No Comments
On Monday, my year as a simple 30 year old ended. I’m officially “into” my thirties. I remember back when I was finally “in my twenties” and how grown up it sounded. Thirty sounded like it was SO FAR AWAY. And like a big, scary number I never wanted to hit. After all, 30 meant I was really grown up and better have my crap together.
In my mid-twenties, I decided that I was just going to live and have fun and when I finally did turn 30, I’d buckle down and probably find that life was…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on February 5, 2015 at 6:05pm — No Comments
The last few days have been crazy around our house. This month has really kicked my behind.
Do you ever get that feeling like you’re running yourself ragged, but you’re not actually getting stuff done? That’s kind of how my last few weeks have gone. I was way ahead going into the holiday season. And then a bunch of stuff happened, mostly good stuff, but some not so good stuff, that just completely threw me off track.
Not having Ricky on our regular schedule kind of exasperated…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on January 29, 2015 at 2:57pm — No Comments
I was looking through my Facebook feed this past weekend, and can’t believe how many people have had babies in the last week. I love those pictures of the first few days in the hospital. You know, the new family photos? They make my heart swell for the new mommies and daddies of the world.
And then I started seeing the posts about the first few days – if you have kiddos, you probably affectionately remember them like I do – where you were completely wrapped up in newborn life,…Continue
After my last post, I got a lot of emails from all of you who also work from home, wondering how I make it all work. Sure, I’ve got these tips and tricks for working from home with a little one…but what actually makes our days tick? I get it: sometimes, working from home when your kids are home seems impossible. I’ve been there. In fact, I probably ask myself why I do what I do at least once a week. And then I remember why we have this part-time childcare set up: because I want to be able…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on January 21, 2015 at 10:31pm — No Comments
Do you ever have those parenting moments where you’re just like…ohmigosh. This is too much. I need thirty minutes of quiet or my head is going to freaking explode. WHY IS IT ONLY FOUR O’CLOCK????
Okay, I know you have. Because we all have those moments, sometimes more frequently than we would possibly care to admit. Today was one of those days for me – seriously, by the end of the day, I was SO HAPPY to read bedtime stories and go through our bedtime routine. And then hand the reigns…Continue
Today I was sitting at my desk, trying to work. But all I could think about was OMG baby stuff. And then I just had to get everything that was sitting on my mind down on paper.
So…lists. Because lists are the only way to keep my pregnant mind organized. Post its + spreadsheets + my white board. What the heck would I do without them?
Anyway, once I started putting my mind to paper, my thoughts went from OMG baby stuff toOMG LIFE IS GETTING EXPENSIVE.
Added by Cortney Galster on January 15, 2015 at 12:38pm — No Comments
The other day, I was at SkyZone with my friend Tiffani and our boys. If you’ve never been for toddler time, it’s pretty awesome: the young kiddos (under five) can jump for an hour and a half (we never make it that long) and wear off some energy. And you don’t have to worry that a bigger kid is going to jump on them. And it’s only four bucks – which is a steal, if you’ve been there on a non-toddler-day.
Tiffani is pregnant, too – due a few weeks ahead of me – and we were chatting about…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on January 13, 2015 at 10:34am — No Comments
So I’ve had this struggle finding a winter coat this year.
It sounds so stupid, doesn’t it? I mean, I live in the middle of the frozen tundra of Minnesota, where no matter how hot it gets during the summer, winter still comes a knockin’ every single year. And I really needed a new down coat this year.
You see, here where it gets to be so cold, you’re practically required to dress like a marshmallow for a few months out of the year simply for self preservation. It’s really just…Continue
Added by Cortney Galster on January 12, 2015 at 9:55am — No Comments