When your husband is dating another woman, what is the etiquette? Are there special Hallmark card? Is there a ceremony or a special title? Maybe even a badge.
No my husband and I are not separated nor are we living in separate residences. His mail still comes to this address and I still wash his clothes, fold it and put it away because as my daughter says, I'm too nice.
Last year at this time, I thought his distance and his crankiness were just fall out from his tendency… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on April 9, 2013 at 2:48pm —
"Live your life like no one is watching." Sandra Hamlett
This line popped into my head while meditating this morning. I'm not sure if I read it somewhere or if it is uniquely mine. I could use the positive reinforcement right now so I'm taking credit for it.
After meditating I started… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 20, 2013 at 8:44pm —
I am struggling. I stepped on the scale and I definitely felt a seismic rumble as the digital numbers flashed up (oh horror) then back down (relief) and then back up again; two pounds since Sunday. I cannot plead ignorance, my husband's de facto position. His immediate response is to question the findings, "This, can’t be right. I don’t know how this could have happened", uttered with a righteous indignation that would fill any politician with pride.
No I do not do this. I know exactly… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on March 4, 2011 at 10:32am —
There are big moments in a parent's life. There are the firsts- first smile, first steps, first lost tooth. There are birthdays and graduations. There are photographs and video to commemorate these times. Hallmark has made a fortune from family milestones.
I enjoy the big moments but I live for the thousands of little moments... Like the one I'm having right now with my daughter, sitting on the couch watching re-runs of "The Office".
Everyone else is the house is sleeping… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 29, 2011 at 1:11am —
I should be bouncing for joy.
I should be performing cartwheels through the aisle of the study room.
I should be getting strange looks from people because my goofy grin falls to close to the line separating normal and abnormal.
Instead... I'm subdued on my first day with time to myself. From about 10AM to 2:30PM, I have no commitments on Tuesday and Friday. My emotions are cut short of full-blown joy as a mixture of guilt, anxiety, and stress coagulate my… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 25, 2011 at 11:56am —
It's been 9 years since I've been in a race and today I took the plunge. I saw the New Year's Day Resolution Run in Lackawaxen, PA online and decided not to overthink it and just do it. I knew nothing about the race. I wasn't even sure how to get there. I wasn't even sure I could push myself to sustain a steady race-pace. What I did know was that I wanted to start the year off running.
I was out the door with butterflies and a vague sense of where I was headed but I was out the door. I… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 2, 2011 at 1:36am —
The other day I was showing my husband a photo in the January issue of Runner’s World magazine of the view from the Big Sur Marathon. I was wishing I could run that marathon next year. His response, “Who has time for that?” really bothered me. What has time to do with it? It’s not about time.
I know it’s easy to bemoan the lack of time as reason enough to give up on things. I’ve tossed out that excuse far too often. I performed a quick tally of all the wasted time in my day-… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 18, 2010 at 3:25pm —
Sometimes keeping secrets are a good thing. Like when your over-sensitive spouse buys you gifts of clothing you would never be caught dead in but you smile, thank him and bury said object in the back of your closet waiting until the appropriate amount of time has passed and said hideous article makes it way to the nearest clothing donation drop box. You trust someone somewhere has a rich appreciation for rhinestones. Or like when you decide on the arduous transformation of your… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 15, 2010 at 1:42pm —
The hot breath of the New Year is upon me and I find myself in a pensive mood. I’m looking back over the year and shaking my head; I don’t like what I see. As usual there were plethora of great ideas. If even half, these ideas made it from my head into some form of reality I’d be Time Magazine’s Person of the Year. Okay, maybe that’s a slight exaggeration but I definitely think I could have made someone’s Top Ten list.
I am battling inertia and the fighting has been brutal.… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 15, 2010 at 1:41pm —
I've had it. I'm tired of calling myself a stay-at-home-mother. Stay at home? I left the house on at least five occasions this week alone.
I've hated that this title ever since I chose to give up full time work for full time mothering and household maintenance (although I should have read the fine print stating no time off for weekends, vacations, holidays or sick days).
Don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking the job even through all the whining, spills, unrecognizable… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 9, 2009 at 11:38pm —
Why is it so hard to do the things that are good for you?
I know I should be in bed so that I can get up early in the morning and write but instead I'm watching a movie and checking out blogs. I guess it could be worse. I could be watching a movie and checking out blogs with a big bowl of Breyer's triple chocolate ice cream.
Tomorrow when my alarm goes off around 5am, I'm hoping this will be the morning I kick my legs from under the covers and get up, shake the dust from… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 3, 2009 at 11:46pm —
Fantasy and reality blur when it comes to my canine pal. The fantasy comes when I imagine the perfect dog- the ever faithful loyal companion at my side. Reality is a completely different story.
This creature looks calm and collected here. She even looks like the pooch of my fantasies but she's so much more:
(sung to tune of the Slinky jingle)
What walks down stairs, alone in the night,
and raids the garbage… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 2, 2009 at 10:49pm —
I woke up this morning later than I wanted (who could have imagined four and half hours of Season 4 of I Love Lucy could make you feel hung over). My house is still messy. I still need to lose 25 pounds (ouch) and my book isn't close to being finished. It's the same as last year.
When I was a kid I loved the idea of the arrival of a New Year. It was this opportunity to start fresh. It was like being born again without the diapers and having to learn all the basics (so I thought). New… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on January 1, 2009 at 12:58pm —
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 17, 2008 at 10:56am —
Sorry for the bad rhyme but I'm trying to write with a toddler on my arm telling me what keys to press.
I've had a revelation, well more like a smack yourself on the forehead moment. Hey, why not give myself a writing quota of 5 pages a day. That's about 1500 words (more or less). During NANO I'm able to hit this mark pretty steadily but once December arrives I kind of squeeze the writing in where I can. On some days I've only managed a paragraph.
I know there's a woman… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 13, 2008 at 10:47pm —
This little guy will be three in February and I am utterly ambivalent about sending him off to preschool. Maybe it's because we really can't afford the extra cost right now. Or because I've gone through preschool anxiety twice already and another go-round doesn't thrill me. It could also be because he's my last baby and I'm not ready to give him up to the school day schedule just yet.
When I lived in NYC this wasn't a… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 8, 2008 at 11:26pm —
Tonight my Weatherbug is showing 17 degrees with a windchill of 1 degree. Yes that's right folks, 1 degree. In my book it's still fall. I can handle the 30s this time of year but when wind chill enters the conversation, I'm ready to pull the covers over my head.
Wake me in the spring!
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 7, 2008 at 10:16pm —
I can easily point the finger of blame at my mother. When I was four she enrolled me in the Weekly Reader Book Club. Two brand new books a month arrived addressed to me. I can still remember the first two, Danny the Dinosaur and Sammy the Seal by Syd Hoff. I digested these books until I knew every line. Two new books found a space on my bookshelf every month. By the time I reached first grade, I had more books than the library in my classroom.
I had a library card too but during the… Continue
Added by Sandra Hamlett on December 6, 2008 at 9:20pm —