Have you noticed how more and more teenagers and tweens are dressing provocatively or is it just me?
In an article by Jennifer Moses in the Wall Street Journal, she poses the question, "Why do so many of us not only permit our teenage daughters to dress like this—like prostitutes, if we're being honest with ourselves—but pay for them to do it with our AmEx cards?" This controversial article and interview has 280 comments since it was published on Saturday March 19th. Many of those who commented were angry at Jennifer Moses, however, she does have a point: the media is bombarding young girls with role models like Miley Cyrus and Paris Hilton and tween catalogs are advertising clothing as "sexy and flirty." In another article entitled "Too Sexy Too Soon," you can see how the fashion industry is putting pressure on tweens to look sexy.
There is nothing new to the fact that young girls want to be cute and flirty, however, I've seen some eleven-year-old girls dress so provocatively that you question, "What is their intention? Jennifer Moses asks, "What are they saying? I've got them, come and get them?" She admits that some mothers are better at guiding their daughters than others, and that she has had problems with her own daughter while trying to bond during a shopping trip. Excuses like, "It's no big deal mom, everyone is dressing like that," or "Just cause I dress like that doesn't mean I'm having sex," are common. She admits that teenagers will drive you crazy, and you end up giving in.
There are some moms and dads contributing to this behavior by shopping with their daughters and throwing them parties at clubs. It's almost like they're saying, 'Look how hot my daughter is.'" But why? One mother says, "It's a bonding thing. It starts with the mommy-daughter manicure and goes on from there." On the other hand, Jennifer Moses who grew up at the tail-end of the hippie generation, brings her own theory. She says, "It has to do with how conflicted my own generation of women is about our own past, when many of us behaved in ways that we now regret." She continues, "We are the first moms in history to have grown up with widely available birth control, the first who didn't have to worry about getting knocked up."
When asked what about her message, Jennifer Moses believes we need to make kids aware of the following:
TV is a fantasy
We're living in a pornographic society with a debased cheap culture
You won't get my credit card to buy stuff I don't agree with.
If you're a parent of a tween or teenager, to what extent do you think it's the media's fault? What can and should we do as parents?
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