With Jackson I was a very laid back parent. Don't get me wrong. It wasn't that I didn't discipline him. I was just still somewhat of a child myself. I didn't follow schedules. I didn't enforce nap times. I wasn't strict about what he ate or how much TV he watched. I looked at other parents and thought wow, they are strict. Poor kid. I could never be like that with my kid. Then I grew up.
And now with Miller I have realized that I'm THAT mom. I was mentally checking off the list of things I said I would never do when Jackson was little and I think I'm pretty close to hitting every one of them. For example:
-I will never let my baby's schedule dictate my life. Hmmm, have I mentioned we have to plan even grocery trips around Miller's naps? Cross that one off.
-I will never use the cry it out method. My baby can just sleep with me. After 2 months of sleepless nights, we cried it out together and he is now sleeping well (OK, it's only 90% of the time but still!) in his own bed. Mark that one off too.
-I will never be the parent that won't put my baby in the nursery. Miller is 5 and a half months now and he is old enough to go to the nursery when we go to church but I can't do it. It T-E-R-R-I-F-I-E-S me! His little squealing noises don't distract from the sermon too much;-) List is officially thrown out the window now.
I could go on and on about the things that I was NEVER going to do as a mother. But now I only have one thing on that list and here it is. Wait for it...
I WILL NEVER SAY THAT I WILL NEVER DO SOMETHING WHEN IT COMES TO MY CHILD!
Yup, lesson learned. And I'm eating crow. So I officially apologize to all the mommies out there that I looked at in disbelief when they would leave a party early to take their child home for nap time. Or those that I gave angry glares to because they had their children with them constantly even when they were old enough to be in the nursery. So sorry y'all. I finally understand! And I will gracefully accept the criticism of others when parenting techniques enter the conversation. Because in the end, I've done the best I knew how with both my boys and I can be proud of that.
Have I done it right? Who knows? But be sure to check back in 20 years. I'll let you know the outcome of both my parenting styles. Hopefully I will have two well adjusted young men. And if not, I'll take full responsibility and make sure I have great insurance that can pay for their "blame it on mommy" therapy!