When your child is first diagnosed with Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder aka ADHD by experts, maybe your first reaction is to not believe it. How is it possible, that you first thought your child is just a very active and curious child, in fact diagnosed by experts suffering from ADHD?
However, it is not possible that you are constantly rejecting reality? Of course, you must take steps on how to educate and raise your child under these conditions. Here's how to educate your child with ADHD.
1. Be honest with your child about the ADHD they have
Parents are not encouraged to keep ADHD secret for their children. Parents are also discouraged from lying to their children about ADHD. Tell your kids honestly about their ADHD.
Also note that this ADHD is not due to their mistakes or misbehavior. Being open to your child about their condition, you lighten the stigma of ADHD that is in your child. Your children need to know what they really are and understand that they can control it.
2. Do not demand children to be "better"
Indeed, children with ADHD may be more inconsistent than normal children. For example, today they repeat the value of 90, tomorrow may be worth 60. The day after tomorrow may be different, maybe 70. But next week, maybe 95.
If you already like this, generally parents say, "If yesterday you can be good, why today is not?" Whereas actually happened to the ADHD children is they are actually very smart. They know what they should do, but sometimes they do not know how to begin.
In addition, as already mentioned, they are sometimes inconsistent. This is sometimes misinterpreted by people in general.
3. Do not let ADHD be the reason for irresponsible children
It's true, ADHD makes it more difficult for children to do something. However, it does not mean ADHD is the reason for irresponsible children. For example, a child with ADHD says "I do not need a public relations job because I have ADHD."
Though the reality, the child can do homework, although it takes a harder business than normal children. Change your child's mindset so they say, "Yes, I have ADHD. But I can still do my homework. "
4. Implement rules and consequences slowly
For children with ADHD, parents will find it easier to apply verbal and written rules and consequences. For example, parents can stick to a list of children's responsibilities and rules in the home.
If you want to reward your gift alias to your child, it's okay. However, do not give the child a gift of something for a long time, for example, "Daddy will buy you a bike if you go to class next year."
ADHD kids have problems planning ahead, so it would not make sense to promise a new prize for next year. Conversely, rewards given try to be given in the near future, for example given the permission to play games outside the time specified, and so forth.
Parents should also explain the consequences clearly. After that, apply the consequences that have been made slowly but firmly. Maybe, sometimes parents feel frustrated and tired of facing their children, but try not to educate your child angrily.
It may be difficult if parents of these children also have ADHD, because ADHD disease can be congenital. Parents who also suffer from ADHD may rebuke angrily because they themselves also have a problem with their impulsive actions. For this, parents are encouraged to control their ADHD first, then try to be a good example for their child.
5. Help your child find their strengths
Children with ADHD are often excommunicated. This can cause the child to feel no self-esteem and depression. Pain has no self-esteem has started to appear in children with ADHD since they were 8 years old.
These kids may feel "There's nothing I can do. Why should I be tired, try? Anyway people still will not think of me, really. "These children are much depressed and feel depressed.
Here, parents play a role to revive the spirit of their children. Usually, if these ADHD kids are interested in one thing, these kids can master it equals the ability for people over 5 years of age.
Therefore, you can say to your child, "Look, maybe you are weak in this field. But, you have other advantages, right? Even your friends can not make what you can make. "
6. Do not be overprotective of your child
As time passes, of course, children with ADHD will grow up. They need to learn to be independent. Most parents try to solve all the problems experienced by their children. This is not good, because children will think, "I have a shortage and surely my daddy mama will solve all my problems."
Try not to make you who should tell everything what your child should do, but try to make your child who will ask what they should do. In the early days, maybe these kids still need your referrals. But the longer, make it a habit until finally they actually make their own decisions to solve their problems.
Teach your child to learn to be self-sufficient, which, for children with ADHD, is difficult to do.
Behavioral treatment for ADHD children
If you have difficulty in educating your child with ADHD, do not worry Contact and ADHD specialist. There is an alternative therapy for you, called "behavioral therapy". Basically, this therapy aims to apply the 6 things mentioned above. Only, with this therapy, you will be given a program and a kind of class by mental health experts. This therapy can be done by taking the drug or not taking the medicine.
Here are three elements of this therapy:
1. Set goals / targets
You and your mentor will help the child to make and achieve a specific goal. Examples of possible targets such as completing homework, playing with friends in the park, sitting at the desk for an hour, or another.
2. Make rewards and consequences
Your child will be rewarded or punished depending on what he did. For example, if they manage to achieve goals that have been made, they will be given extra time to play the computer. Conversely, if they behave negatively, then you will reduce the hours of their game play.
3. Be consistent in performing therapy
It is important to apply the two elements above until the child can do it himself (without the help of parent or pembibing) things that have been taught.