I was listening to a workshop called Change Your Brain, Change Your Life done by Dr. Daniel Amen, who is an expert on the human brain.
It's rather funny actually. It came on television between Mr. Rogers, and The Reading Rainbow. Who would have thought that myself, and my children would become so educated on the subject of the human brain while watching children's television?!
As I was cleaning up the house, okay - I was blogging!, and listening to it in the background, I picked up on something that struck me as funny.
Dr. Amen said that one of his patients had a wife that was always responding negatively to anything that the husband suggested.
So, the husband would ask. "Will you come to the store with me?"
The wife would respond. "No, don't you know how busy I am?"
So Dr. Amen recommended that he use a negative approach.
For example "I'm going to the store, but you probably don't want to come."
Naturally, she would respond. "I absolutely do, why wouldn't I? Don't you know that it's important to me to spend time with you?"
Dr. Amen proceeded to explain how exercise, good nutrition, and limiting your exposure to toxins, alcohol, and drugs can help to improve the health of your brain as well.
However, the husband explained that he was pleased with the results except for one remaining issue. How could he use this negative approach when it comes to his wife not wanting to have sex?
He couldn't exactly say "Dear I'm going to have sex, but I'm sure that you don't want to come."
So, Dr. Amen recommended that he go on a nice romantic walk with her (exercise), then give her a piece of dark chocolate (because it stimulates the brain to thinking that something exciting is going to happen), and that he touch her indirectly (not on the breasts, buttocks, or privates.)
Lastly, he recommended that the husband put a dab of baby powder behind his ears.
Because unconsciously, women are drawn to the smell of baby powder. It's apparently sexually stimulating for women because women associate the smell with fresh, newborn babies. Naturally, women want to have a baby, and therefore they will become sexual aroused at the smell.
I am sorry, but I burst out laughing as I imagined all of the husbands, boyfriends, etc. out there who were watching this program, as they ran to the bathroom to douse themselves in baby powder in order to get lucky!
White powder coated men, prancing around in my head, drooling in anticipation of having sex.
Can't wait until my husband gets home, to let him know about this little secret that could possibly be the answer to our problems in the bedroom, haha.
Mama of Romance