Back when I first got pregnant with Jack I was told to find a support network. My family lives in Australia where I left them to come live here with my wonderful husband, so that was not an option for me as my support. I have wonderful inlaws that have been great but I found I needed more than that. I needed other moms, other moms that weren't sleeping at night, other moms that were lucky to feel the hot spray of a shower on their bodies, other moms that needed other moms to talk and digest their every day struggles and successes with.
I tried a few playgroups but found them to be quite clique and non welcoming, what can you expect right! A bunch of woman. After having Jack for 6 months and still not finding a support network of moms I decided to start my own. I am happy to say I have found plenty of other moms out there in the same situation of me, especially living in a military town. We now have a group of around 30 moms. So many of them are wonderful wonderful moms and friends, that everyday I am thankful for the group. Ok fair enough not every day, and obviously today is one of those days since i am writing about it.
We have a very tiny percentage in our group that like to be competitive, mean spirited and sometimes downright rude about things. This can cause a headache for me in finding the best way to deal with things. I used to think Honesty in my brutal blunt way was the best way. Lets just say I have softened and grown up a bit! However how else am I going to handle the negative posts that are upsetting others and causing division in what has been so far a very great bunch of gals who are always welcoming and kind to the old and new moms of our group. I find the planning part the easiest, which is the thing people always thank me for, it is the people management part that is the hardest. I kind of feel like I am back in the preschool classroom sorting out the spats of Johnny and Paul in the sandbox.
And there you have it, maybe that is the answer, sort it out with the same patience and firmness that i would have used for my lovely precious preschoolers. Maybe and then Maybe Not!!!