Well for me it took until 1:00 p.m. the following day. They boys went to school and I parked and talked on the phone with my cousin who had been calling for the past two days to check on me.
I had heard about a book "Raising Your Spirited Child". We've always know that both of our boys are spirited, but what did the really mean? Anyone that knows me, has heard me say more then once "I am obsessed with the need to understand what is triggering their poor behavior to begin with". I'm not one to hide behind blaming poor behavior on their age, on developmental changes, etc. Those things are truly occurring, but it's not a reason to tolerate such behavior.
After I picked up the boys from school, we headed to the book store. I bought both the book and the work book that goes with it. While we were in line my 2 year old was banging a pencil on his stroller tray, annoying to say the least. After warning him to stop, and he didn't, I took it away. My 3 year old says "You may not have that pencil back!". I made it clear to him that he was not the parent, I was and I would handle it. I got a quiet "okay". The woman behind me looks around and compliments me on my parenting skills (little did she know what we had been through the previous two days.). I started laughing and admitted that I was actually there to buy a parenting book.
I did however, keep it to myself that just the day before I had called in the troops to dig me out of the mud. I was still tired and really needed to keep the compliment felt soothing. It gave me the energy to slide at least one leg back into my "mommy pants".
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