My partner and I feel like maybe the do, because our manual just arrived last Friday. Maybe a little late, but better late then never!
Between the discipline suggestions and reminders from my troops, and the discovery of a book titled "Raising Your Spirited Child". We feel like maybe children DO come with manuals. When persistent enough in finding out what they need, what their triggers are, what we need as parents, and ultimately what we need as a family to be successful.
If you have ever wondered if your child's behavior is beyond "well they're just boys" or "well they're just going through a developmental leap", etc., etc., etc., then this book is for you. While all of those factors are real and do play a role in their moods, we just felt that there was more. Since our first child was 2 years old my partner and I have researched ADHD more then once, but the symptoms just never fit.
When I looked up this book on the internet, just the description of the book, had me running to the book store, kids in tow. When I started reading it that night, I couldn't keep my mouth shut. I hounded my tired partner with all of the personality traits that I was recognizing. I was scribbling notes on every page....usually not my thing to write in books. The minute she picked up the book, she couldn't keep her mouth shut about what she was figuring out from this book! It was like the puzzle pieces were coming together and fast. We're still saying to each other "Do you know what else I've noticed?".
Interestingly enough our 3 year old is "sprited introvert", and our 2 year old is "spirited extrovert". It also maped out our personalities. We are both "spirited extroverts" GREAT NOT A CALM ONE IN THE BUNCH TO BALANCE EACH OTHER OUT!
My next post will dive into the personalities of the spirited child, but right now I have to pick them up from school, so that will have to wait.
Until then remember....Parenting Ain't for Sissies. Keep at it until you find it, no matter how exhausting it may be. We owe it to our children to build the best possible family and to raise them to be the best possible adults.
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