I'm back!!! Well Mama's it's been 3 long months and I am finally back. I took a break to get myself together. I hadn't been feeling too well and I could not figure out why. My family and I took a trip Memorial Day weekend and I got sick on the trip but I mustered through it and kept quiet...Yeah, yeah I know I should have said something but I didn't. On that Monday night I had the worst pain ever which landed me in the ER that morning. I figured I had a stomach bug and I'd be out in no time. Imagine my surprise when the doctors told me they would be keeping me and I'd be in surgery within 24 hours. SAY WHAT!!! Wait a minute Dr. I have things I have to do...cook dinner, pick the kids up from school, wash clothes, help with homework, prepare teacher treats and unpack from our trip. I panicked and asked if they could simply patch my insides up and let me go home and I promise I'd schedule surgery. They smiled and told me no. I looked at my hubby and wanted to cry. Within 24 hours I had my gallbladder removed and an umbilical hernia repaired. I was not prepared for this to say the least, but here I am 7 weeks post op and I'm better now. During my recovery I had to go back to the hospital for having a fever and being diagnosed with the flu and having a 103.4 fever. Let me just tell you I was in a bad head space. Here I am trying to recover from my surgery and now I have the flu! I was a good girl and took my meds and now I'm much better. Thank God.
This last month has taught me that I'm not super woman and I need my "village". In case you're wondering what a "village" is, it's your support system. Those people who will come to your side in good and bad times. Those people you can count on to be there physically and emotionally. I 'm proud to say that my "village" was amazing. My husband took everything in stride. He was "Super Dad" and "Mr. Amazing" while I was down for the count. My mom, aunts and cousins helped me out with the kids, cooking, cleaning and entertaining. My church family and friends prayed for me, checked on me and lifted my spirits. I thank God for my "village" because without them I could not have made it.
Mama's do you have a "village" that you can count on, have you built a support system of people who can be there for you in good times and bad? Are you a part of a village? If not I highly suggest that you form one. Sometimes as Mama's we think we can do it all by ourselves and truth is we need help. You will burn yourself out if you try to parent alone. Regardless of your marital status you need help with the kids, even if it's just to have a date night. There is nothing wrong with asking for and receiving help. I encourage you to take the leap and surround yourself with positive people you can trust to be there for you and vice versa. There is strength in numbers and you'd be surprised how being around other like minded people can have a positive impact on your life and overall well being.
Trust me I know how hard it can be to ask for help. In my head I believe I am "Super Woman" and that I can do it all. It was extremely hard for me to receive help because I am used to doing everything for myself and my family. To be placed in a position where I could not laugh (for fear of ripping sutures) and literally having to walk one step at a time was very humbling. It made me never take for granted all of the things I am able to do. It also helped me to assess situations before complaining. So Mama's please take my advice and build your "village". If you already have a village please never take it for granted and let them know how much you value and appreciate them. Happy Hump Day Mama's!
Don't wait, Live your best life now!