A friend of mine wrote a guest post on my Stapleton moms blog. She sent it to her former co-workers at CNN, saying, "I'm famous!" and they replied: You used to work with Wolf Blitzer, and now you think you're famous?
She's a stay at home mom to her 2 year old. She obviously had a career that many women would kill for. She also knew that it wasn't the kind of career that mixed with raising a child the way she wanted to, so she gave it up.
Lots of us stay at home moms are in the same boat. We either gave up our career or cut down on our ambitions considerably to stay at home with our kids. It's not an easy decision. Lots of times we look at our friends and neighbors who work, and they seem to have it all while the world is just passing us by.
I'm lucky to have an aunt who knows just the right thing to say to me when it's raining and I'm stuck inside all day with a toddler.
She'll call and say: Look at your son. He's so confident, so happy, so trusting. He knows his mom is around. You guys have your own little schedule. He can take an hour to eat his Cheerios, and stay in his pajamas until 9:00. He's happy playing with his cars in the living room, or going to the grocery store, or playing at the daycare at the gym, and he just trusts that you're taking him somewhere good. Every trip in the car is an adventure. He trusts you. He knows when he wakes up from his nap, you'll be there. There's nothing you could be doing that's more important than being with this little guy, because this time will be so short. Before you know it, he'll be in school, and your days will feel empty without him. There's plenty of time for "What's next" -- no need to rush it.
Sometimes it's OK to just be, and not be doing, doing, doing. I have to remind myself of this every day.
Not to knock the working moms, I know it's a difficult decision either way. I have another friend with a great, flexible job, but she'd give anything to stay at home. Financially, she doesn't have the choice. The grass is always greener on the other side.