Living Our Dreams
Every one of us has a dream. Maybe it’s to quit our office job and start a business. Maybe it’s to leave the rat race entirely and travel around the world. Whatever they might be, those dreams are there. But how many of us actually take the chances necessary to live our dreams? Believe it or not, I am living mine. And I’m here to tell you how I did it.
For me, the biggest step was letting go of expectations and learning to go with the flow. You can’t MAKE a dream come true; you can’t will it to happen through sheer force. Things in life are always going to go wrong and threaten to throw you off track. Your job is to stay focused on the result you want instead of the uncomfortable moment you’re in. In other words, it’s to simply let go. Make the changes you need to make, do the things you know you need to do, and then stop worrying about what will happen next. Don’t make rules or be rigid with yourself. Just go with the flow. Be in the moment. Make new friends. Enjoy whatever life brings you, and learn from it, and move on.
Believe it or not, even failures and tragedies can sometimes be opportunities in disguise. I don’t know how many times something I desperately wanted didn’t happen, only to realize later how lucky I was that it didn’t, because something better, more enjoyable, more ME came along instead. Rigid, narrow-minded thinking would have made me miss those possibilities. But staying open and free has allowed my dreams to come true.
For me, one recent dream has been opening Spa Lounge – I’ve had this idea for a unique, stylish, totally chill hangout for awhile, and really wanted to bring it to life. But watching that dream come true has been filled with ups and downs – almost like carrying a baby. One day you’re in bed with morning sickness, the next you’re thrilled to feel that first kick. So when the normal – and not so normal – challenges of building a cool new hangout came up, I stayed in the moment and got through it. Sure, there were construction nightmares. I was even ripped off a couple of times! But each of those hurdles taught me something, made me stronger, and helped me focus more clearly on my goal and how to achieve it. When Spa Lounge finally opens in Pacific Beach, and sets the standard for a new kind of cool, relaxing hangout, all the headaches and sleepless nights will be worth it. I will have realized my dream.
And the best part it, this is only the beginning. There are plenty more dreams where that one came from.