As I read this article
, I could feel my blood starting to boil. Parents at Wright State University have created a "mentoring" program for black male students that is essentially a hand-holding program for parents who can't let go or can't trust their sons enough to be men and handle their business. If you have done your job right, parents, you shouldn't have to follow them through the academic process to make sure their assignments get done and their grades are kept up. They should be able to do that on their own.
College is the time when these boys should be preparing to be men and setting the standard for how they will act once they are employed. Moms, what are you going to do when junior gets a job? Go to his employer and set up a "mentoring" program with their employer to ensure that your son gets to work on time and accomplishes his weekly tasks? If your son is not doing his job in college, you don't hold his hand and do the work for him, you stop paying for his schooling until he can demonstrate that he is ready to handle the responsibility that goes along with furthering his education.
And don't get me started on the fact that this is a program aimed at black men. Way to prove to society at large that black men have the ability to handle responsibility. Maybe that's why there is so much failure on the part of black men to be "real" men, they expect Momma to do everything for them. So where does that leave us women who want to marry a good black man? It leaves us with the choice of being single or raising someone's son because their momma hasn't learned to let go. Mom, do yourselves and especially your sons a big favor--CUT THE CHORD! Let that boy be a man. If he fails, be there to help him get back on his feet, but, dang it, don't be his crutch.