As most moms can attest, as you add more children to your family, or even just as your first born gets older and busier and more opinionated, you start to let things slide. Things that when you first started out (not to mention before you had kids) seemed crucial to a happy life. Like bathing everyday. Or bathing your kids everyday. And cleaning the house or doing laundry. So my question for you is: what do you let slide?
My story:I am currently a single mom. With no friends or family living nearby to help out. My husband got a new job last November in a different state. I was 8 months pregnant at the time, with two kids under 3, and we decided that I would stay behind to sell the house while he went on ahead to start his new job. It has now been 6 months and we are still in the same situation, only now I have three kids 3 and under to take care of on my own. So understandably, things are starting to fall off the chore list. We no longer sit at the table for dinner. If I have to feed three kids at the same time, one of whom is on a bottle and takes both my hands, I just can't deal with two kids at the table needing help, so they get finger foods that they can eat themselves without a huge mess on the couch. Whatever. Table manners will just have to be learned in a few months when we move. I was never really much of one for housekeeping, so my cleaning schedule has actually increased due to the fact that we are showing the house and because my mom was nice enough to get me a new vacuum that I actually love using. But it still only happens maybe once a week. And laundry, well, it is fortunate that the kids and I all have ridiculously large wardrobes because it can take me up to two weeks to finish a load of laundry. That stuff just sits in the basket for ages until I finally get around to folding it. Usually when I need the basket for a new load. I try to get the kids in the tub every other day, but that doesn't always happen. Usually it ends up more like twice a week, and that was okay in the winter when we were inside all the time and stayed pretty clean. Now that we are at the park everyday and slathered with sunscreen I'm going to have to go to daily baths. I also try to brush their teeth every night, but I confess that I forget pretty often. I'm usually just so focused on getting them in bed and finally having some time to myself to do luxurious things like eat dinner. As for myself, I'm pretty happy as long as I get to actually eat regularly and maybe wash and blow dry my hair every three or four days. Exercise has been abandoned completely. And while I really hope to start improving on my laziness before I abandon all pretense of civilization, it somehow seems more important that I take the time to play with my kids when they ask me to rather than clean the kitchen. And if I'm too tired at the end of the day from playing and want to spend my time reading instead of folding laundry, well, that never hurt anyone either. Right?