Recently my husband and I have decided to work on our marriage and we discussed what needed to be changed and what things we need to take another look at. 

My husband brought up that he had been thinking about enlisting in the army. Apparently this is something he has always thought about doing and has been wanting to do. I have a close friend who has a husband in the military and he is currently away until January. She is also pregnant and this is a very hard time for her. I can't imagine fixing my marriage just for him to leave for months at a time or longer. At the same time, if we can save our marriage especially for the sake of our children, why should I keep him from something he really wants to do? 

Another issue with that is my daughter. She sees her father every other weekend, no over night stays. I have legal and physical custody of her. If my husband does enlist in the army and has to be stationed somewhere far and we go with him, wouldn't I have to leave my daughter behind or would she come with me? There's no way i'd be able to leave my daughter for months at a time or even weeks or days. If I was sure and very positive that my daughter would be with me 100% of the time if we were to move, then i'd be a little more comfortable with his choice. At the same time, I don't want to lose my husband even if we didn't get back together, I would be utterly devastated if I lost him. 

Am I being selfish? Is this something I should tell him to do?

I can't possibly be the only one in this situation. I have read many blogs on army wives and how they divorce all the time or there is cheating. I would never cheat on my husband and I am sure he would never cheat on me but the time apart if I have to stay because I can't take my daughter would be so hard. 

Advice?

Views: 10

Comment

You need to be a member of Mom Bloggers Club to add comments!

Join Mom Bloggers Club

12/23/14 DAILY BLOG PROMPT

A SPECIAL GREETING FROM FRAN DRESCHER

MOM BLOGGERS FOR SOCIAL GOOD

Mom Bloggers for Social Good is a global coalition of 2000+ mom bloggers who currently span over twenty countries and who care about spreading the good news about the amazing work non-profit organizations and NGOs are doing around the world.  Want to make a difference? Please join us!

Toxic Free Blog - by Brittany Glynn


Brittany is a director of the Toxic Free Foundation and created the first ever Toxic Free Certification Program.  Weekly, Brittany publishes the Toxic Free Blog and provides coaching to over 10,000 families in the United States alone.  She is the author of a Toxic Free educational series and co-author of several Toxic Free learning programs. Brittany is also an award winning author. 

© 2014   Created by Mom Bloggers Club.

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service