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Recently my husband and I have decided to work on our marriage and we discussed what needed to be changed and what things we need to take another look at. 

My husband brought up that he had been thinking about enlisting in the army. Apparently this is something he has always thought about doing and has been wanting to do. I have a close friend who has a husband in the military and he is currently away until January. She is also pregnant and this is a very hard time for her. I can't imagine fixing my marriage just for him to leave for months at a time or longer. At the same time, if we can save our marriage especially for the sake of our children, why should I keep him from something he really wants to do? 

Another issue with that is my daughter. She sees her father every other weekend, no over night stays. I have legal and physical custody of her. If my husband does enlist in the army and has to be stationed somewhere far and we go with him, wouldn't I have to leave my daughter behind or would she come with me? There's no way i'd be able to leave my daughter for months at a time or even weeks or days. If I was sure and very positive that my daughter would be with me 100% of the time if we were to move, then i'd be a little more comfortable with his choice. At the same time, I don't want to lose my husband even if we didn't get back together, I would be utterly devastated if I lost him. 

Am I being selfish? Is this something I should tell him to do?

I can't possibly be the only one in this situation. I have read many blogs on army wives and how they divorce all the time or there is cheating. I would never cheat on my husband and I am sure he would never cheat on me but the time apart if I have to stay because I can't take my daughter would be so hard. 

Advice?

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