It's been more than four years since I have become a stay-at-home-mom, or SAHM, for short. The perks are aplenty but the downside to it is that your life literally revolves around your children's schedule, especially if you have little support from elsewhere.
Some friends are envious of my SAHM status, they say, "so good, can afford to stay at home and look after your children", yet there are others who commented that it's a waste (of money) to study so much, just to be home to care for children. My response to either group is the same; I choose to be a SAHM and I'll take its benefits, sacrifices and everything in between and I definitely do not think that using my time and my training, expertise or whachamacallit on two people who mean A GREAT DEAL to me is a waste of anything.
Despite saying that, being a SAHM can be pretty lonely. For me I realised I "lost" a lot of friends and acquaintances. Those who stuck by me must really love me a lot because I simply did not or could not connect with friends like before. When my working friends wanted to meet up for dinner or drinks, it was time for my children's bedtime routine; when a friend wanted a chat over the phone, the Princess was making her 67th urgentrequest for the day.
Thankfully I had a bunch of like-minded friends who understand the demands of SAHM and have been accommodating towards my lifestyle. Out of them is my BFF (we affectionately call each other that when we are in a goofy mood) and we have known each other for about 20 years! She and her husband are my the Princess and the Rock's Godparents and my husband and I are the Godparents of their children; our children are so close that they call each other "my brother" and "my sister".
Why is she my BFF? Well, I don't know, really. In fact she and I have quite little in common. One thing I do know is that we've got each other's back and we do not judge each other's actions. We have prayed with each other through a few trials and have grown closer through that. I am thankful for this friendship and love, so yeah, we intend to be best friends forever! *peace sign*
"Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
(Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT))