This is the scene around much of the country during Black Friday. What I consider to be a dreadful day. A big fat mud splat on the face of human kindness. Stores slash prices, people throng stores, camping out for days or even hours at a time, then crush each other, all in the name of a sweet deal.
Fox news had a report on the Black Friday violence today: A woman peppered sprayed multiple customers & CHILDREN to clear the way so she could be the first to grab the toys and gifts she wanted. A grandfather put a game in his belt to lift his grandchild above the frenzied crowd in the hopes of protecting him, only to be pounced and tackled to the ground by police who mistook his actions for those of a shoplifter. Here is the Fox News Report : Black Friday Violence pepper spray, attacking the elderly.
When I watched these ridiculous scenes from the safety of my home I think " What in the bleep is going on? Why do some people treat each other which such blatant disregard that they're willing to step over, push, or now we've learned pepper spray their competition?
Last year some people even lost their lives during this hot mess. How is this possible in a "civilized society"? And at Christmas no less the season of giving, sharing, loving, and now, "back off my American Doll grandma or you and your walker are gonna get it!" It really makes you wonder.
When are retailers going to figure out how dangerous this is? When are people going to be more concerned with the safety of their fellow man instead of scoring that cool video game? I don't know.
Then it dawned on me. Didn't this just happened between some super popular mom bloggers? Name calling, attacking, slanders all over the Twitter world. If you didn't hear about it I'm not even going to bother with a link to the feud, I don't want to promote more caddy girl fights and I don't know either woman so only they know what truly happened.
Many moms want to be " The next Rock star Mommy Blogger", or the "one with the most followers, which by itself is not such a bad thing but the question begs to be answered, how do we do to get there? Does it come with a price and if so, what is that price?
Do we step on, crush and push aside other mom bloggers because they only have 10 followers and we are too busy to visit or help them if they ask? Do we insult, mud sling, and proclaim their blog is no good only to make ourselves look better?
I must confess that so far all the moms I have met and those who follow my blog are amazing women. Not because they follow me just because they are amazing all by themselves.
I've not run into bickering or hate, or anything even close to that.
But with the recent public Twitter battle between two mega mom bloggers, I believe it not only puts a blemish on the face of mom bloggers everywhere, but it also confirms the age old stereotype, "women can't get along, put two in the room and CAT FIGHT!"
Then I thought "wow how sadly pathetic that people would think that about women, about us."
We are moms, bloggers, teachers, wives, soldiers, doctors and so much more. I think Shania Twain said it best when she sang " She's not just a pretty face."
So I had a thought. It happens occasionally LOL. What if we made a pact, a promise? What if women everywhere swore an oath to "Do Harm To None" ? What if we said " Enough with the fighting, putting each other down, and name calling? What if we formed a mighty bond and we stuck together and refuse to be divided?
I'll tell you what would happen. We would all rise together and soar to the highest altitude of greatness. I love the crab in the bucket analogy it goes like this. "The crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a useless "king of the hill" competition (or sabotage) which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise."
Women are not crabs. Lets build a bridge where we can all stand firmly on the hand of another and get a lift up. Where the one below says I'll support you and lift you as you climb out. And the process is repeated again and again and again until none are left at the bottom of a hopeless bucket waiting to be devoured.
Shakespeare said it best when he said " “Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
So lets launch the first ever "Do Harm To None" Campaign. Grab this button and place it boldly on your blog. If you wear this badge on your blog it means exactly what it says. "I take an oath alongside women everywhere, to encourage, to inspire, and to lift up. I will not attack a fellow blogger she is a woman, she is mighty and she is worthy of my respect."
I leave with you, this final quote by George Bernard Shaw. "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it."
Here is your button. Take it and display it with pride. Spread the message of solidarity between women bloggers to DO HARM TO NONE.
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