That’s right: I cosleep with my baby. It is not something I do because I’m too lazy or inept to make him sleep on his own, or because I have some unhealthy need to make him overly dependent on me, or because I am simply too stupid to know better. It was not a “bad habit” that we formed. It is a conscious decision that I made based on research and what felt right for us.

This is a topic that has come up a lot for me recently. There’s been discussions with fellow co-sleepers about lying about our sleeping practices, comments from family and friends about how I need to just put him in his own bed, and a couple of blog posts condemning cosleeping as unsafe, unhealthy, and even abusive. Frankly, I’m sick of it. I’m tired of constantly explaining my parenting choices. I’m tired of feeling like I need to hide something that is very rewarding and healthy for my child and I.

There were two blog posts in particular that inspired my response. One, which I cannot seem to find again, angrily condemned all cosleeping parents and claimed that the practice is a form of child abuse. (What, you provide loving care to your infant all night long from the warmth and comfort of your own bed! What horrible parenting!) The other is somewhat less offensive, simply stating that the practice is too risky to be beneficial. It mentions that cosleeping encourages more breastfeeding, helps both mothers and babies get more sleep during the night because wakings are more frequent but shorter, and helps build a strong attachment between mother and baby–all of which he claims are unimportant. Oh, yes, sleep, nourishment, and attachment are all unimportant to a growing baby.

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Comment by Sarah <3 on May 7, 2010 at 10:01pm
I co-sleep and agree with you about everything. One should not have to justify oneself to others because their parenting practices are outside the norm! I do not attack other mothers on things I consider outrageous (like CIO for example) and yet many (mostly in-laws) have condemned me for doing what is natural and best for my baby!

I just started a group for attachment parenting mamas if you would like to join, but I am not spaming and it is perfectly okay if you do not :)

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