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Discussion Post-"Your Baby Doesn't Look You...you're the Mother?!"

Okay moms, how many of you have had family and strangers comment on how much your child doesn't look like you? Raise your hands.
Have you gotten the "He/she looks just like your husband", or "baby looks like your husbands sister", or even "Baby looks just like Great Grandma Ethel" of course it's the in-laws making that comment because your parents wouldn't say such a thing. Or would they?
Is it inappropriate? Yes, especially if they go on and on about it and every time they see you and baby.
Why does having a baby bring out the ugly in people? It's like some jealous poison takes over their mind, body and soul?
Here are some comments I'd like to share with you that other moms have encountered:
"The stranger said though she must look like her father because if you walked away from her no one would know she was yours!"
"People always ask...is that your son? He doesn't look a thing like you!"

I got into this topic with a bunch of other moms yesterday and I thought I'd bring it up on here, surely we're not the only ones.
One friend of mine looks nothing like her daughter. I would never say it, who cares if she doesn't, she'll probably have her moms personality isn't that always the trade off?
Strangers have asked if she's the nanny, acquaintances have commented that "Wow, look at how dark you are and how light she is", people really want to get personal and ask what her heritage is and what is her husbands.
When I had Charlie I knew he would end up looking more like his father because the Norwegian genes in his family is strong, Papa Ash looks like his mom but I see Big T(Grandpa Ash) in him as well especially in his mannerisms and bone structure.
I got it and I got it a lot, in particular my step mother always laughed and said "He looks nothing like you, wow those Ash genes are strong etc...etc...". Every time we would speak. Okay, I get it. Does she have to always have to reiterate it?
It really didn't bother me that much, I think what bothered me was the lack of manners. I mean if he doesn't look like me thank god he looks like my husband. Why wouldn't he? Duh!
Often I would laugh and say "Yeah, well you know it's a funny thing. I had nothing to do with it, all I had to do was push baby out" Here's Master Charles, yes he looks like his father. Did I get high lights so I'd be part of the blondes(Papa Ash and Charlie) in my family. Yes. However I am back to brunette but that involved an awesome diaper bag.
A lot of other moms really, really take it personal and are quite hurt when people constantly bring it up.
What have your experiences been? I'd love to hear your stories.
And if your a person who has done this, really think before you speak we know your comments aren't sincere so don't play dumb when we call you on it.

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