Got a New Year’s Resolution? Get a Little Help From Friends
By Shelly Aristizabal
Many people don’t even bother to make New Year’s resolutions anymore. We’ve all had the experience of making & breaking a resolution, so why set ourselves up for failure? Two years ago, I vowed to finally commit to learn Spanish; that was forgotten by the end of January! I found that when I went for it alone, I’d get busy or just let it go.
But a resolution I kept? Last year, I was with a couple of girlfriends and said I wanted to send a daily inspirational/motivational message to my oldest boys. One of them suggested that we share the messages with each other every day too. They held me accountable, cheering me on when I sent the messages and reminding me when I fell behind. A year later, I am still going strong.
This is the idea behind the Mom Bloggers Club Circle of Friends - small groups of bloggers connecting to share and learn and grow together. Research shows that we are more confident, learn more, and accomplish more when we work in small teams; everything from book clubs to professional organizations to church groups have demonstrated the effectiveness of peer support. For women in particular, having the support of others can make a real difference, in part because we consistently underestimate our abilities.
This is not a new concept, Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In movement has Circles all over the world. Members supporting one another in life & business. They build confidence in one another to set ambitious goals and work to achieve them. This support creates positive change in our lives - from taking on a new challenge to building better relationships to learning new skills.
As we launch in to this New Year, what bold and exciting goals do you have for your blog and your business? I encourage you to Connect with your Mom Bloggers Club Network by joining a MB Circle of Friends. Surround yourself with peers who will help you dream big -- and then take the steps that will allow you to realize those dreams.
And me? I am going back to a resolution I have let go the past several months - read from a good/positive book for at least 30 minutes every day. I am doing this with the support of my MasterMind Group (a circle of friends). They have made this same resolution too, and we plan to use our monthly call to check-in and share with one another how we are doing.
In a Circle of Friends, you will find people who help you stop thinking “Why?” and instead ask “Why not?” Support them as they support you. Whatever your New Year’s resolution may be, you are more likely to keep it if you link arms together.