"What's wrong?" I asked.
"I put my tooth under my pillow...and she never even came last night," she answered, visibly upset.
"Umm...honey, you never told me you were going to put your tooth under your pillow last night," I said.
"Why should that matter?" she asked. "It's the tooth fairy who's coming, not you".
Oh boy...now what do I say? Before I had kids I always thought it was kind of deceiving to tell them lies like the Tooth Fairy or Santa Claus. Then once I had kids, I thought it would be mean to deprive them of getting excited with the other kids. Plus, once my oldest was walking and starting to talk, other relatives started telling them that 'Santa' would be coming, so what could I do? I guess I just took the easiest route, and went along with it.
The Tooth Fairy was another matter. When my oldest daughter lost her first baby tooth, she cried. She was very upset that it had come out - she didn't want an adult tooth. When her grandma asked her if she was going to put it under her pillow for the Tooth Fairy, she got really upset. She did not want to give it away. So, we put it away in her jewelry box.
Eventually, she lost a few more teeth, and each time, she wanted to keep it. When we read stories about the Tooth Fairy, and she saw that other kids would leave their teeth for money, she became a bit more interested. She asked if I had given my teeth to the Tooth Fairy, and I said I had. Even so, she still wanted to hang on to her teeth.
Finally, one night she decided to put her tooth under her pillow. So, the Tooth Fairy finally made an appearance at our house. Apparently, she didn't think that the Tooth Fairy gave enough in exchange for her tooth, because she said from that point on, so was always going to keep them. So, when she decided on her own to suddenly put one under the pillow without telling anyone, I found myself in a bit of a pickle when she wanted to know why she had to tell me first. Now what do I do?
I feel bad about not being totally upfront when it comes to the Tooth Fairy...but I also want her to be a kid, and believing in the Tooth Fairy is something for kids to enjoy.
"I think maybe the Tooth Fairy can hear us. So, when you tell me you are going to put your tooth under your pillow, she hears you, and knows that she has to make a stop at our house," I told her.
"Oh...ok," she replied. "Mom, I'm going to put my tooth under my pillow tonight!" (which she said very loudly and very clearly).