My ten month old son just had the biggest melt down I have ever seen! I am a first time mom so I can't be sure if this was your typical "temper tantrum" but it was definatly something! I was trying to feed him lunch and he proceeded to slap me and the spoon of food (several times) sending the food all over my dining room. He then started banging his hands on the tray and screaming all while looking at me with puffed up cheeks and a face as red as a tomato. After about two minutes of this (which by the way, I just sat there and stared at him...trying to do the "ignore it" thing) the tears started to come. Then he cried hysterically for about five minutes...and by that time I had to get up and leave the table. When I returned because I was afraid he was choking he was crying so hard, he just kept banging his fists on the tray. What I then realized (and did) solved the problem, but uh-oh...I think I may taught him a naughty lesson! As I would approach him, he would stop crying...and if I backed away, he would scream again and bang his fists. Oh my gosh...he wanted ME!! I love him so much that I couldn't resist. I went over and gave him a hug, told him I loved him and that it was o.k. As long as I stayed touching him, he would cease the unbearable screaming and banging (I did not take him out of the highchair though...didn't want him to think he could totally get his way with that behavior!) Anyways, we finished lunch and as I think back I have to wonder if this started as a small disagreement (me wanting him to eat, him wanting something else) and turned into a full out blow-up because I tried the "tough love" approach by ignoring him and then walking away. Did I hurt his feelings? Did he feel like I was abandoning him? This is my first experience with this behavior so I can't be sure if I did the right thing and filled him with love, or just taught him that the way to get mommy is by throwing a fit! Oh dear...I may regret this one, but how could I resist? When he wants me and there are tears involved, it is just too hard! What is right, tough love, or just love?? Here is to hoping that I won't regret this one!
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