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The Mom Blog 's Response:
In his blog posting today, time was the main reference. He referred to time being a 'yesterday', a 'now',
and a 'tomorrow', and that time is a really just a number and we should not let it be a main focus of our lives, especially when it means we let traumatic past events determine how we perceive the now. Our main focus should be the present and the future, and we should forget about the past whether it be good or bad. Forget? The Bad and the Good? That's right. I was going along with some of what was said until I got to the part that read,
"Which may cause you to ask yourself, what about the beautiful things of the past? What about the incredible, miraculous, kind, loving, wonderful events that have already happened? Guess what... they don't exist either."
You see, my thinking goes something like this...
I am who I am today based on the events of my past, whether they be good or bad. Any bad events (lucky that I haven't experienced too many traumatic events), would hopefully help me to become a better, stronger person in the now and future. Living only in the 'now' is simply not a realistic , nor healthy in my opinion, way to live one's life.
The posting makes reference to time being a major focus of our life and to some point, I agree with that. Time does tend to be a dictator of sorts, but I really don't think there is any getting around that. We can learn to manage it, but time is not going away.
My main problem with time, is there simply is not enough of it. We rush, rush, rush, trying to fit everything into a given time frame. We push ourselves to try and meet deadlines, or we have to pick the kids up by a certain time and then get them to practice by the scheduled time. I put the brownies in the oven for the directed length of time and then I take them out right before it's time to put the kids to bed. I have said many times, "If only there was more time in a day."
I think it's time I move on to my next point.
Forget about the good.
Are you kidding me?
If I forgot about the good, that means events such as the ones below would not exist: