I listened to a radio show this past weekend where the topic of discussion was Marriage vs. Cohabitation and which was better. Many reasons, from not wanting the state to be involved in a relationship to cohabitation was a sin was raised and debated as to the various reasons for why one way was preferred over the other.
While I’m not here to judge, as a mom, I do not favor cohabitation especially where kids are involved. As someone who’s raising 3 boys, it’s imperative that they know you can’t just live with someone and have kids with them and never marry them. As men, I need them to lead by example and to give their children the legal benefit of being recognized as a family unit and all the legal rights that attach to it. They also need to know that spending their life with someone is serious business and that when couples live together as husband and wife that they should be husband and wife.
I acknowledge that as a society, we’ve started to lessen the value that marriage plays in our lives. We no longer see it as central to the family structure, and this has led to an enormous break down in the family unit which we must correct. So if you’re someone who’s cohabitating, consider the message you maybe sending to your children. They, after all, learn from our example.
What do you think? Do you think that marriage is no longer valued in our society or that parents who have children shouldn’t cohabitate?
You can follow my blog posts at http://mothertoson.blogspot.com