When you first lose a baby, and are thrown into the child loss community, it’s a little overwhelming. The outreach, support, people who’ve been there…it’s just a lot to take in, especially because you’re not expecting to become overnight bosom buddies with people around the world. But that’s what happens – you join the club that no one ever wants to join, and it becomes a huge source of support – because everyone in that group knows what it feels like to walk over the hot coals of pain that you’re currently standing on.
But what about the people on the outside – those who can’t imagine what baby loss feels like and have no idea how to approach someone who has lost a child? Those conversations tend to be awkward – or not happen at all. People have told me that they wanted to reach out when we were in the throes of our loss. But they didn’t – they didn’t know how to approach us. And that’s ok. I think it’s completely human to be affected by someone’s loss, but not know how to react to it – or how to reach out to that individual...Continue reading at The Mommyhood Project