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MamaBlogger 365 Initiative 2011. Today's Post 'My $.02 by Amy Brozio-Andrews' For the Museum Of Motherhood!

REFRAMING MOTHERHOOD: Are you a Blogger with a following, who wants to change the world? Please write us at MamazinaMagazine@gmail.com to participate. We ARE looking for more contributors. MamaBlogger365 initiative posted at M.O.M. here.

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From the first chapter of the first advice book for expectant moms I ever picked up, when I was about two weeks pregnant with my first child, I noticed there were times that motherhood felt more like a clique than a club. It seems like everyone, from authors to well-meaning women I knew to online parenting blogs and forums, had an opinion — spoken as gospel truth — to share.

“You must never let morsel of food pass your lips that wouldn’t be the healthiest choice for your baby.” So, no cookies for nine months. No exceptions. Got it.

“You know those prenatal tests expose just your baby to needless radiation.” Are you my doctor? A doctor? Medical professional of any kind? No? Okay, then, thanks for the tip. One more thing to worry about.

“Letting your baby cry is cruel! How could you?” There are moments when I’m going just going to have an unhappy baby. Aren’t I? Does it always have to mean personal failure on my part?

“I have really high standards for who I’ll permit to care for my child when I’m not home, like any good mother would.” Interview, reference check… and what else would a “good mother” require? Blood test? Demand collateral?

“Oh, what a little tubbo!” No artistic license there; that’s a direct quote. I kid you not. I nearly choked.

Almost nine years on, you’d think I’d have the hang of motherhood but still, an off-hand comment or judgmental remark stings. A lot.

If I could reframe motherhood, I’d like to see a little more  “we’re all in this together” instead of “If you were doing it right, you’d do it my way” and I’m hopeful that the Museum of Motherhood will showcase the diverse experiences of moms in a supportive, empowering environment, illuminating how many different kinds of mothering can raise happy, healthy, well-adjusted children.

Amy Brozio-Andrews

Logistical Coordinator for Mamapalooza. Amy lives in the Albany, NY area with her husband and children and works hard to cultivate opportunities for women through her work with Mamazina Magazine and Mamapalooza Inc.

* An interesting sidebar: Authoritarian Parenting website & it’s history here

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