I have been blown away for about a month now! Without to much details because other "eyes" involved in this tend to wander and use what I blog about to their advantage even though i do NOT use a last name for them to "find" me.
Here is a brief synopsis of what is going on and please if you have a comment PLEASE feel free to leave it so other "eyes" can read it!! :)
I moved from California, trying to better my life. I filed for divorce and headed back home to family and friends that could support me until i got back onto my feet. No one was in California that could help me, and as a single mom of 2 kids it is not impossible but it is 10 times harder to go back to school to get an RN or a Physicians Assistant degree while working and raising a 10 year old daughter and 2 year old son. I love my kids dearly. I am a very devoted mom and have spent the last 10 years doing for them rather than for myself. When I decided to move and improve my life here back home I had my son with me and my daughter was with her dad. Who is a dedicated dad with her. Would not want to ever take either of my children away from their dads. They need that bond too. But what gets me is I went into a custody hearing in CAlifornia last month and I lost big time. i got handed my ass to me, with no attorney and left feeling so defeated. I am better now, but still left with how can this be? My kids I spent 60% of the week with my daughter and 100% of my time with my son. Now I get to Skype them twice a week and left wondering how can a judge do this? I was awarded 3 weeks with my daughter and her dad blocked it. (of course) and my son i get 10 days with until October. Thats it!!! I was told in a move away case in the state of California I have no rights. It is where the child was born if where he/she stays put. Until the other parent wants to cooperate. Ya right!! Going through a divorce and hard feelings. I don't see that happening any time soon!
SO what I am left with is doing what I said I was going to do and better my life for myself and kids. GO back to school and work my ass off to get them back! I just don't get Cali laws. At least in move away cases. There are hardly any guidelines to go by it is a case by case judgment. Who knows what will happen!