My first hateful comments - and I'm taking them just as hard as I knew I would

I knew this would happen. Eventually, you get hateful comments from someone. Someone who doesn't like something you shared on your blog and because of it starts hitting below the belt. These people usually post anonymously, which just shows what cowards they are, but somehow that doesn't make me feel better.

The accusations have no basis, and yet they sting. A complete stranger, who has never visited my blog and obviously doesn't get my sense of humor at all, concludes that I'm shallow and uninteresting? And that the only kind of movie I might possibly enjoy is a romantic comedy. And all that, because I wrote a tongue-in-cheek post about a movie I didn't enjoy. And because they did enjoy it, they assumed that I'm simply stupid and didn't get the symbolism. When the truth is, I did, but I found the medium pretentious and not particularly appealing. But it's not a life-or-death matter, so I chose to write a humorous post about it. And I just can't get over the fact that they read one post, assumed all kinds of stuff about me without even bothering to browse through my blog, and then felt entitled to post offensive things, like the fact that they disagreed with me gave them the right to be hateful and offensive.

This is what happens. People get offended by others not agreeing with them, and feel the need to make the other person feel/seem stupid, because that's the only way their opinion will have more value, if someone else's opinions have less. Am I the only one who finds this incredibly juvenile and, well, shallow?

And I felt like saying some of these things, like telling them to lighten up because it was a joke, and then to defend myself and to call them shallow, for assuming all these things about someone they don't know based on a single post, and telling them they probably have an empty life, if they can take personal offense on a humorous criticism to a comic book-based movie.

But that's not me. I don't do that.
Because I don't know them, and I understand one can feel strongly about things other people might feel are trivial.

There's only one thing I don't understand: the part when it's ok to be cruel to someone just because they are different. That is seriously wrong, because it's at the base of things that are much more serious than negative blog comments, like racism, religious intolerance, and hate crimes.

And I can't help but feel that if you can, if not be happy with who you are, at least make peace with who you are, you don't EVER feel the need to belittle someone else to make yourself feel better. And if you are still struggling with who you are but you are a decent person, you don't act on that instinct. Because even if you don't know who you are, you know you are better than that.

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Comment by Elisa on March 10, 2009 at 8:12am
I hear you! But I guess to a degree we have to get used to some, right?
Comment by Clair on March 9, 2009 at 6:27pm
I got one this week too and feel your pain. My skin is tooooooo thin!

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