I've got #2 on the brain. Not that number two. I'm talking baby number two. It's not a coincidence because lately it seems everyone is wondering if I'll have a second baby. I find this questioning only slightly less invasive than having my belly felt up when I was pregnant. D2 turns two in November and whenever anyone asks me how old he is, it's always followed up with, "So are you going to give him a little brother or sister?" Last week at the salon my stylist put it much more bluntly, "So what's the story, are we having a second baby or what?" *Gulp. Silence.* Heads swivled to look at me as I choked out the standard "We're practicing!"line. Sheesh. What do I say to such a personal question? My uterus has barely snapped back into place and already the questions are flying.
I've been saying that we really would like to give D2 a sibling if we can. Actually, I sort of feel that we are obligated to do so because we are older parents. When D2 turns 20 we'll be 60. When he's 40 we'll be .... oh God, I don't even want to think about it. This sounds morbid but I fear that we'll die and leave him alone while he's still a relatively young man.
I think about my anxiety over possibly having another miscarriage, which I experienced before I had D2. It's a tough emotional journey that many women don't talk about - and it's exceedingly common. I think about the letters AMA (Advanced Maternal Age) that will be scrawled across my chart that let everyone know at the OB/GYN that you are officially past your prime but some how your eggs have managed to hang on for the last call at the bar. (Quick side bar: Ignore the B.S. lies you read in tabloids about 40 something celebrities and their claims they got pregnant "naturally" even though they are pumping out fraternal twins at alarming rates. There is no f@$*^!g way. Not Judging. Just saying.)
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