The start of January meant one thing to me: Baby time! Time to get all of the Christmas decor put away & time to focus on having our 3rd baby! I, like many mamas spend the last couple months of my pregnancies resting and nesting. I call it my ‘R&N Time’… Get the nursery together, wash clothes and blankets, take a few naps, pack my hospital bag and make a few extra special memories with my family of 4 before we add another babe to the mix!
Well, I guess I keep being reminded that my plans don’t always go as planned. Maybe I should start making ‘New Years Resolutions’. I don’t because I keep learning that nothing goes as planned. And just as I was ready to start my January plan (Rest & Nest), my plan was canceled. By my ob-gyn practice. You see, this isn’t my first OB-GYN practice; it’s my 2nd, and I came to this practice after visiting and getting ’2nd opinions’ at many others. It was a big decision to leave my former practice. An emotional one and one that was scary to move forward from. As a woman, it’s always scary to put your body in the hands of a Dr., any doctor. And for me, I find it scarier because I have C-Sections. Not just smooth sailing CS’s but hard ones. So hard that my former doctor came into our hospital room after Rocco’s c-section and told me that there was a moment that he felt he’d have to keep my uterus because it wasn’t contracting properly and I was ‘open’ for too long, losing a great amount of blood. I opted out of a blood transfusion because of the risks involved and by God’s grace, got through it. I could see the Dr.’s fear when talking to me about performing the CS but he did it, got my uterus back in properly and we moved forward. To this day, I still cant imagine if he would have had to keep my uterus. I can’t imagine if Rocco were our only child. But then, when Rocco was 9 months old, we were pregnant again! We decided to stay with that Dr. because he knew my history, he knew my body, knew my ‘problems’- I put my trust in him and felt comfortable with him. Well, Roman landed in the NICU for 5 days, maybe 6 and I had many internal postpartum issues.
Fast forward to pregnancy #3 and that was when my hubby put his foot down. He didn’t want me going back to that Dr and felt that everything that happened with our 1st baby, then 2nd was largely due in part to our Doctor. Brian wanted me to change practices and that’s when I found a woman through my dear friend. This Dr. performed 3 beautiful CS’s on my friend and that instantly gave me peace. I miscarried that pregnancy under the care of my new Dr… Dr. Alvarado is her name. She was and is phenomenal. She was phenomenal during my miscarriage too. She brought me in through every worry, every pain, every twitch, every fear and saw me. She let me cry. She never rushed me. She read my charts in such detail and that alone amazed me about her. She would refer to things during my pregnancy that even I forgot about. I stayed with her and the practice through the miscarriage and went back when I found out we were pregnant again. Even though she encouraged me to visit all of the other Doctors in the practice, I didn’t want to. I’m a 1 Doctor kind of girl. I don’t want to be passed around. But I listened and made apts with the others. I was very happy and pleased with the care I received.
And then, just yesterday, I came to find out that she and the other Dr.’s in the practice left. Gone. See ya later. No clue where they went. No clue how to get a hold of them. Here I am, having a baby next month and you mean to tell me what? The woman on the phone informed me that my upcoming apt (in just a few days) was with a nurse, and that my C-Section that was scheduled on Feb. 25th would be re-scheduled (no date, of course) with a new Dr… Dr. Smith.
It’s not like I’m having a vaginal birth where a Dr. will stand at my feet and catch the baby after I do all of the work. I’m having major surgery! MAJOR. Surgery that hasn’t gone as planned years ago. And now I’m being thrown to some random Joe or, Josephina who hasn’t seen me, read my charts, got to know me, knows my body- I’m furious. And the receptionist, while friendly, had no answers for me but instead, wanted to ask me 7,392 questions as to why I don’t want to move forward with their new Dr.’s and nurses. ??? So I said very nicely,
“How about this – Have Dr. Smith call me and tell me a few *key* things about me. Angelique. About my body. About my history. My C-Sections. My problems. Her plan. Our plan… In the mean time, put my charts aside. I’ll pick them up on Monday morning.”
That’s when I made a few (ok, a ton) of phone calls and found my Dr. I FOUND HER. My Dr. who couldn’t/can’t reach out to me (because of non-compete, I’m sure) but I found her. Has to be a kicker. There is. She can’t deliver our baby via CS (bc of non-compete) but her co-Doctor (if that’s what you call them), can. One day I’m sure I’ll have a more profound reason as to why this all went down and happened. Why I had to change hospitals, practices, Doctors, etc. at the end of my pregnancy…. I’m sure. We always see the answer at some point. Things always happen for a reason.
So though the Dr. I want can’t perform my CS next month and though I’m changing hospitals, visiting new offices and hunting people down while 8 months pregnant with 2 toddlers and a psycho dog, I’m here to tell you, this practice (seasons OB-GYN) is worth hunting down. Is worth stressing to find. Is worth calling. I’ve been hunting since 9am and was determined to resolve this before the weekend began. Mission Accomplished. Now it’s time to remember, life doesn’t go according to our plan. This whole ‘thing’ still isn’t over. We still have to meet with the Dr. who will be performing my C-Section, we still have to talk over details with her, we still have to make sure she reads and knows my history well and we still need to have a successful CS with a healthy baby… But honestly, I know that because I’m in good hands…
Everything is going to be OK.
(Baby… 32/33 weeks)
If you or someone you know was with Magee Women Care Associates, PLEASE give them this phone number so that they can reach/find their Doctor(s). Tell them that the Dr.’s are unable to contact them like they were unable to contact me (most likely because of a non-compete) but they can be found at: 1-866-844-4431