In my earlier blogs, I stated that my husband and I have separated, for the second time. Unlike the first time, it's already been 7 weeks and we are still not together. The first time I took him back within 3 weeks...BIG MISTAKE. The way I saw it was, nothing will ever change if nothing ever changes, meaning things will stay the same if I do not do something drastic.
My children deserve to have their parents together if they have what it takes to respect and love each other. I know they have gone through stress with the way my husband and I had treated each other and I felt absolutely awful and hope they are not damaged by that. Sometimes many relationships are just not meant to be but our children better off having their parents separate/divorce if it just can't work, or are they better off having their parents stay together when they are miserable? Recently, my husband and I have been communicating a lot more than before. He has told me that it has really hit him hard that he has to be without us. He told me that he took me for granted and he can't believe he hurt his family. Sometimes it takes someone to lose it all to really understand what they had was incredible. I have expressed to him that I do have conditions and we both have to put the same amount of effort into making this work. We are going to slowly start by working together to plan our son's baptism. I am completely standing my ground on this but I want it to be smooth so that our kids do not get confused. It is really important to me that they do not get scarred at such a young age. I will completely torn apart if my toddler starts getting depressed or if her behavior takes a turn for the worse.
My parents feel that if I believe this can work out, then I should do what I feel is best, especially considering marriage counseling. The rest of my family, like my sisters, brother, cousins, etc., feel that I should just divorce him and move on with my life. Of course, they also feel that once I do get divorced...I should stay alone forever. =/ not liking that at all. I'm kind of hurt that they would try to force me into this and make my big life decisions for me. My parents divorced because these were hard between them, arguing all the time, controlling each other...but after a year, they got back together and honestly, they are the happiest now than they have ever been. So I know it can work sometimes.
I love my children so much and if I can keep our family together then shouldn't I regardless of what the rest of my family thinks?
Have any of you gone through this? I understand this is a very sensitive subject and personal. but have any of you ever gave it another chance and it worked?