Yesterday I had to babysit my two nephews (2yrs old and 4yrs old) and my little boy was so excited to have them come and play. Once they arrived they immediately ran to play in my little boys room. I set up my baby camera so that I could hear them a little better. I had some dishes and laundry that really needed to be done so once they were settled I got to work. My 4 month old was taking a nap so I quickly washed all my dishes and loaded them into the dishwasher. As I was doing so I realized how nice it was washing dishes alone. Then I thought to myself, “why am I watching cartoons I can watch grown up TV!” Guess I’m so use to watching cartoons or football I barley even notice. So I ran and grabbed the remote and turned on Cougar Town. (I love that show and secretly hope that my friends and I will be like that one day) Ok now it was laundry time. I start folding our clothes and would take breaks in-between to check on the boys. By this time my 4 month old had woke up from her nap. As I sat there on the couch I thought about how nice it was to do the things I needed to do in peace and not feel guilty about doing them. (dang mom guilt) My little boy was happy playing which made me happy.
Then it all clicked, play time with friends can equal quite time for Mommy! All this time I’ve been doing it wrong! I’ve been inviting the parents to come over as well. I could have been getting things done instead of visiting!
I’m just kidding. (kinda) But it does bring to light that I should call friends of mine and start asking if “johnny” can come play so that his mom can have total quite time and I myself can have a version of quite time as well. Maybe they would return the favor one day. Its a total win/win for us as parents and for the kids. They have someone to play with and we can be left alone! (sounds bad when you say it out loud but you know what I mean)
Now I realize that this could backfire and they could fight and cry the entire time but that is a gamble that I am willing to take. So guess what I’m wondering is if anyone else does this. How do you approach it without sounding rude? Its not that I don’t want to visit sometimes because lord knows I need girl time. It’s just that sometimes I like to be by myself. I like the quietness and the fact that I don’t have anyone to answer too.
So leave me some comments if you and your friends do this. Let me know how it came about and if you enjoy it!