Raised to believe that a man needed to look after a woman and that, as her mother used to tell her, ‘single women have no status’, Philippa Sklaar felt that any man was better than no man. If a man looked after her, she owed him. So, for financial security and, admittedly, her relationship addiction, Philippa tolerated abuse, became whoever her husband wanted her to be and lost herself along the way. Her book, Pleased to Meet Myself is aimed at women who suffer from the belief that having anybody is better than nobody and who depend on a relationship to validate their worth.
Although Philippa never knew how to cook when she married for the first time, she soon realized that the kitchen would become her sanctuary. As she states in her book, “instead of hiding under the duvet in a suicidal spin or creating something scrumptious in the kitchen, the kitchen always won.”
This book explores the journey to herself, the men, including four husbands, that accompanied her along the way and the valuable lessons learned. Since cooking was one way in which she coped, these men, in the book, are named after ingredients and each chapter ends with a Food for Thought section of musings or lessons learned, a list of questions for the reader and the recipes for each dish mentioned.
Philippa states, that “nourishing our stomachs is as important as nourishing our souls.” And this book does both. Her blog, PleasedToMeetMyself highlights topics of codependency with each post ending with a recipe. It is a beautiful collage of story-telling, recipes and photos – a true feast for the eyes, stomach and soul.
Philippa has been a model, designed her own clothing line and became an accomplished caterer but most importantly she found her true self and loved what she saw.
If you would like to share your story, need advice, a recipe or just to know that you are not alone, you can connect with Philippa Sklaar on Facebook.