Mama’s this week we have been bombarded via TV, social media and radio about a pro basketball player coming out to the world that he was a gay man. While I am a Christian and I do not agree with his lifestyle I’m not here to bash him or condone him as that is not my place. I am here to talk about tolerance and respect for humankind, period. Our children learn from us and the behaviors we display. It is so important that we realize that the world we grew up in has changed drastically. When we send our kids off to school with our teachings, values and morals we can only hope that they are kept intact. Mama’s we cannot be blind to the fact that everything that we once knew is being redefined and we have to make sure that we teach our children to be accepting to all people, from all backgrounds regardless of if we agree or not. Our society has become a melting pot of colors, socioeconomic backgrounds, cultures, races and the list goes on.
We have come from the ages of segregation where blacks and whites couldn’t even be seen together, let alone get married. Now we have interracial marriages and it’s more widely accepted. Mama’s we have now entered an age where our kids are seeing more than we ever saw because our societal norms have changed. When I was in the store about a year ago there were a group of young men that were dressed like women. They had on skinny jeans, eyebrows nicely arched, earrings, make up and short cropped hair. They saw me, spoke, I spoke back and kept moving down the aisle. My then 5 year old daughter asked me Mama why do those men look like girls. I knew this was not the conversation we needed to have here as she said it loud enough for the young men to hear her. Of course they were giving me the side eye as to how I would respond. I politely said, baby that’s their choice and kept on pushing my buggy (shopping cart). I didn’t just say that because they were listening. I said that because I was telling the truth, it is their choice. My baby wanted to continue the conversation and I told her we could talk more about it in the car, and if you know my baby we had this conversation in the car immediately and it went like this:
Camryn: Mama men are supposed to dress like men, why do they want to dress like girls?
Me: Camryn we are all different and some men really like girl’s clothes and if that is what they choose that is their choice.
Camryn: Well I don’t like it cause girls clothes aren’t cute on men (pokes her lips out) and if they keep buying all the girls clothes we won’t have any!
Me: Camryn don’t worry there will be enough clothes for us, ok
So I thought this conversation was going to go really in depth and if it had that would have been fine too. I find that I don’t have to approach my children with the different things that go on in our society because it’s already there for them to see. I do find that teaching your kids to respect others and to tolerate their differences even if they disagree if something that can help them navigate their way. We all see things every day that we do not agree with, and that is ok. The problem comes in place when we show hate in the midst of our disagreement with issues. We are our child’s first teacher and if we learn how to have civility in the midst of our disgust or disagreement we can teach our children a lot. Now the conversation with my daughter could have taken a different turn, but why did it need to? Mama’s I’m not perfect and I don’t have all the answers but I do believe that we can call coexist and get along without bashing each other and being mean. I won’t be with my children always and neither will you. One thing we can do is impart in them the ability to respect themselves and others while showing love and kindness to their neighbors. Just think if everyone taught this to their kids and reminded themselves of it how our world could change, seriously. I know some of you just read this and probably think this Mama has fallen off her rocker and she probably believes in unicorns too. Call me whatever but I want the climate of our society to change. I want our kids to be able to disagree and get along as children so they can get better at it by the time they become adults. Maybe that’s wishful thinking on my part, but what if we had enough wishful thinkers that put their wishing into action….My, my, my what a wonderful world our kids could have after we are long gone. Just give it some thought and think about what you can do to make a difference. It doesn’t have to be a huge step, sometimes the smallest steps are the hardest, but you gotta start somewhere. Happy Hump Day Mama’s!
P.s. Mama’s if you don’t agree with this blog post, that’s ok. We can agree to disagree and I’ll see you on Friday
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