Just the other day at an intake with a new client, a desparate mom asked, “Is there any hope in getting Will organized?”. “Yes, of course Will can get organized. It may take him longer than some of his peers but it can happen,” I said. Apparantly Will’s mom didn’t like my answer since she commented to me,”Well that was a very passive answer!”. General maybe but passive, no.
Parents who seek my help are usually at the end of their rope in helping their child become organized. As I did with Will’s mom and so many other parents, I describe 3 organizing styles that everyone has - visual, spatial/comfy, and sequential. Why so many parents are unsuccessful organizing their children is not a result of any lack of effort on their part. It happens to be the strategies they are trying to impose on their kid. Unfortunately, their children may have different organizing styles than their parents.
I have found to have much success in organizing kids once I have established their “styles”. A visual style needs to see her items, a spatial/comfy style needs to be able to reach for her items and a sequential/chronological style needs to have her items placed in a certain order that probably only makes sense to her.
In my upcoming book, Organizing the Disorganzed Child, I go into further explaination of all three styles. I will offer strategies, suggestions on items to buy and helpful hints to help you and your disorganized child.