Ok, I have a 10, 11, 13, and 14 year old, plus a 19 year that recently moved to Florida. Now I must say raising kids is one of the toughest jobs or most important role one can have. My 14 yr old is in 9th grade, in honor classes, but he has skipped a few class and been acting out some but I refuse to let him go down the wrong path.
My 13 year old is clueless, 10 year acts like a baby, my 11 year is a drama queen, and I am stuck in between the madness. They are all talented and charismatic, and I love watching them sleep for more than one reason (lol).
Yet, I remember days when I felt like I was about to go insane dealing with my teenager because when she hit 14 she transformed into "beauty and the Beast" but I made it through the storm alive. Now we have four more to raise and I am praying to God that I can make it through those teenage years without Karate chopping my kids to keep them straight (lol).
My main reason for this post is give and get advice because I believe you have educate yourself and communicate with other parents, teachers, and elders to understand how to raise children. Every child is different even those who are raised in the same household, but no matter the personality of differences we have to raise our children to be accountable.
Rule #1: Accountability
When our children are cute little baby's we let them get away with almost everything under the sun, we make excuses for their behaviors, and before you know it, your child is a now a terrible 3 yr old, then a spoiled 10 year old, and a now an emotional teenager. So don't wait until you child is 12 and up before you try to make them responsible and accountable for their actions. Don't be afraid to put limitations on a 3 year old because after the age of 3 it is really hard to curve those bad behavior.
Example: You are grocery shopping and your 3 year old keeps throwing his/her sippy cup out of the shopping cart. You say "if you do that again, you're not get'n the cup back" and then he/she does it again, then you take the cup, they start crying, you break you word and give the cup back so they would stop.
Just so you know every time you break your word or don't follow thru you're teaching your child not to accountable for his/her action and also setting an example that, "You don't always say what you mean or mean, what you say." In addition, they're learning how use their emotions to get what they want. I learned the hard way and I just wanna share my experiences with you, so feel free to share your experiences and don't be afraid to ask for advice .