I am far from a perfect mom, but I like to think I do okay. Sometimes, things are extra hard; like this weekend. I was not a good mom this weekend.
There seemed to be more bickering amongst siblings, more pajamas left on the floor and less help around the house. More groaning about the meals I made, more I want to watch TV and more forgetting to flush.
Was it me? Was it a full moon? Are they coming down with something? They must have had too much junk food.
I was trying to put clothes away and discovered that I could not get to the drawers because they had made an eleborate fort maze with the dresser (who is planning to clean that up?). My daughter's new hair cut was so bad and so embarrassing that she did not want to go to school this morning. My son forgot to tell me about the elaborate report on Davy Crockett due this week.
I need some parenting therapy. Here's my Tuesday Top Ten list. I hope it helps.
Top Ten Ways to Regain Super Mom Status
- Keep calm. This is so challenging for me but I know it's important. If I can stay calm, maybe my kids will stay calm and the situation will not escalate. I am a huge fan of Celebrate Calm with Kirk Martin. He speaks around the country about how to manage your own emotions instead of trying to control your kids. Remaining calm is key. Be sure to sign up for his weekly newsletter.
- Hug. Seriously, if things are stressful just smile and hug it out. It works every time.
- Apologize. This can send a strong message to your kids. Did I overreact? Did I lose my cool and yell? Did I impose a punishment that was too harsh? If so, apologize, hug and move on.
- Listen to your kids. No I mean really listen. So often I am multi-tasking and do not give my kids the respect they deserve. Sit down, look and listen.
- Go outside. A change of scenery can do wonders. Ride bikes, swing or collect worms.
- Look at photo albums. My kids love to look at pictures of past vacations. No worries if they are not scrapbooked to the nines, just photos. That's all that matters.
- Play a game. This works magic in my house. A good game of Monopoly or Super Mario Memory can make everyone forget their worries (until someone loses).
- Make treats. Get the kids together in the kitchen and make Cocoa-Snapz or some other special treat.
- Take a break - alone. Go out for coffee when your husband gets home. Send the kids to the neighbors to play. Sometimes mom just needs a little me time to clear their heads.
- If all else fails have
one two glasses of wine and just relax. Tomorrow is a new day.
Please tell me your tips to regain super mom status. Stay tuned for more Top Ten on Tuesday.