We have all be there before. Someone asks us to volunteer for something that we have no time to do or have no knowledge about but, we say yes anyway. PTA's are notorious for this. Trust me, I know. They never lose a phone number.
The problems begin when something has to give because the day is only 24 hours long. Either your family gets neglected and you hear about it or you do a crappy job and everyone else thinks you're incompetent.
What do you do?
It's all about prevention. That is, learn how to say "no". It could be the hardest thing you'll ever have to learn how to do- I know from experience. But, you'll get some self respect, which is priceless.
Here are 5 Tips to help you say no.
1. Tell the person, sounds like fun but "I'll have to take a pass". Important words to learn how to say.
2. Before you are about to say yes, and while you are contemplating the associated guilt with a no, ask yourself in the scheme of things, what is more important, your mom quality or your volunteer quality.
3. What is the worst thing that could happen to you if you say "NO"?
4. Get or make a journal and write "no", 100 times a day, Then, add a new method of saying no on each day.
5. When you do volunteer and you feel stressed out and angry, be sure to bottle this emotion up to reference the next time you are asked to do something. Write it down if you need to.
Saying yes is okay if it works with the higher priorities in your life. I have volunteered more than most people, usually with great satisfaction. But, when it comes to the point where you sacrifice something important, learn how and when to say no.
Any other ideas for learning how to say no?