Who would of ever thought saying the words "I'm pregnant" will cause me to experience a heart break and fall into a deep depression.
After telling him that I was pregnant, my daughter father was adamant about me getting an abortion, he even asked for me to put my daughter up for adoption. I repeatedly told him no but that didn't stop him. He then turned to emotional abuse and reminding me of how jacked up my life was at that time.
I was under so much stress while pregnant, all I could do was eat and sleep. After giving my baby's father words some thought of how my life was already messed up and bringing another child into this world would only delay my struggle, I agreed to have an abortion.
For the first time in a while, my daughter's father and I was actually sitting down at the abortion clinic having a normal conversation like we use to do before I got pregnant. I was at peace with the decision to abort my baby and move on with my life.
As I headed to the back and into a room to get prep for the procedure, I felt at peace which was strange because I never had an abortion before, so why was I so calm?
The doctor came into the room and took a look at the baby and how far along I was on the monitor. I saw the doctor take a second look at the screen and then asked me "Do you really want to go through with this?" Why you say that? was my response. "You are 17 weeks pregnant, not 12, so if you go through with this procedure it will be a two day procedure and cost $5,000" at that I jumped off of the table and started putting my clothes back on. I advised the doctor that I would not being following through with the procedure because deep down I really wanted to keep my baby, I was just under a lot of stress from my baby daddy. I went out into the waiting room and handed my daughter father his money back and told him sorry buddy, I'm not having an abortion.
Here are some tips to help you if you are feeling pressure to abort your child:
1. Know what you want. If you want to keep your baby then stand your ground and keep your baby.
2. Never make an emotional decision while under pressure that you might later regret. Ask you're baby father to give you time and space to time about what you want and what's best for you and your child and use that time to get clear on the things you want to do regarding your unborn baby.
3. Be okay with him leaving and not being apart of your child life if you choose to keep your baby.
4. Know that as you take care of your children, God will take care of you.
5. Form you a support circle to help assist you through your journey of motherhood.
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