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One thing that I really don't understand is why adults seem the need to ask 101 questions about me, my daughter and her father?

I have people ask me all sorts of questions.

The usual:

  • How old are you?
    • 21
  • How old is she?
    • 5

(doing quick math in their heads... eyes bulge... usually followed by a Wow!)

The one that really bugs me:

  • So where's her father now? (in a condescending tone) You're not together are you?

I don't know if its the question itself that really bugs me or the way in which it is asked.

Me: No, we are...

(interrupt me)

Person: Yeah, of course not

What the hell is that supposed to mean? Is my first thought.

Then I just graciously smile and think to myself: if you only knew.

If you only knew that I left her father after almost 6 years of being together because of several reasons. Ranging from abusive behavior, to lack of maturity (which is funny because he is more than a few years older than me) to infidelity. And that while we were together we created a naturing loving environment where our daughter learned that both of her parents love her amongst many other things. If you only knew that I choose to be a single parent because I wasn't happy and didn't want to raise a child in a relationship that went from loving and respect to the complete opposite.

If you only knew that one day you might hear or read about me in Forbes, The Times or any other major media publication. So please don't feel pity for me or my daughter because we are doing just fine and after I walk away its just her an I.

The way we both like it.

Then after I have all of these thoughts I wonder why do teen mom/ parents get the third degree and do "grown" adults get the same treatment?

I understand people might but curious as to why/how teenagers become parents but the answer is simple: sex.

That's how anyone or thing becomes a parent. Sex.

 

Next time you see or meet a teen parent try to have a bit more respect and know that we try hard, just like another parent of any other age group, to do our best and sometimes an encouraging comment is nice to hear.

Thank you for reading!

Don't forget to check out my other blog http://myfirstyearnyc.blogspot.com/ where I try something for the First time everyday :)

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