I agree that it should be a 50/50 trade, but I never execute that trade. I just do it. I think now I just do it out of habit. I figure that since I hear them and am already up I can just get up with them. Why wake up one more person. However, there are nights when my DH hears me with the kids and he will come in to take over for me. I am just grateful that he is willing to do so.
I know this is a mom's blog but I had to chime in. The mom of my child never gets up in the middle of the night. She doesn't get up in the morning unless I have left for work. I have to work 12hr shifts then do everything when I get home.
Well, my husband and I just discussed this tonight. Unfortunately he's a trucker and he's gone all week long, so when he's home on the weekends I expect him to do his part, however.. he's always tired and feels the weekend is his time to rest. His suggestion to me was "Sleep when the baby sleeps". Geez.. after 7 months I'd sort of like a little break here and there, you know what I mean? Being a sahm is a lot harder than I thought it would be.
With the first kid, my husband and I shared nighttime fairly evenly (although I was nursing so sometimes it had to fall to me). Somehow by the third kid, I've ended up being the one to get up most of the time. He says he just doesn't hear the kids so on the few occasions when I've been impossibly tired, or sick, I elbow him in the back and he'll get up. But it's usually easier to just do it myself...and I make all three kids have a quiet time in the afternoon so I can nap! They're going to be in high school and still napping if I can make them.
My husband shares the duty especially when we are trying to break our 11 month old's cycle of crying even when she is not hungry. If she smells me she wants to feed and then she starts sobbing. He has an easier time getting her back to sleep until she is really hungry. I try to take more of the brunt of night duty, but it helps having his support. It also helps that he understands what some of my jobs are as a SAHM when he gets a chance to take part.
okay so my 3 year old was a crib sleeper from three months. then somewhere around two there was a sickness or a new tooth and she was allowed to sleep in our bed for some days and never left. then came jack, (okay, so she left occassionally), who is nearly 9 months old is has never slept in his crib. no our sleeping arrangements are so ridiculous in the new house that my hub sleeps upstairs in my daughters room and i sleep downstairs with the baby, and we each tend to the kid that is closest.
but were it not for that we would each pretend we were sleeping through the din of whatever kid woke up, until one of us couldn't stand it and handled it. mostly me though.
I always am the one to get up. It was that way with my DS (now 5) and now with my newborn. Granted I BF her so it's a bit different than it was for DS who was formula fed... Honestly it's my decision to get up because I want to check on them and be sure they're safe, LOL!. Sometimes I do want to hit DH in the head so he'll get up when DD starts to cry or DS needs something, but it's just easier for me if I do it. Plus, DH works a very physically demanding job so I'd prefer him to be well rested so he's safe!