(or dad) about being a parent? I'll be totally honest here and say that my mother was very controlling when I was a child (thankfully she's come a long way). One of the things I am trying to be very conscious of is my son's ability to make his own decisions. I will always be there to offer guidance, of course, but when it comes to having a say in what he wears or the activities he enjoys I want him to feel a sense of autonomy, not parental suffocation.
"Go with your gut" ... I guess that would sum it up for me. My mother passed when I was 18, so I never really asked about parenting advice (wish I had now, that I have 3 babies of my own).... But, I seem to feel that she went about parenting & life w/her gut instinct. She KNEW what to do, and how to do it. And she was confident in her choices she made. And confidence she has passed on to me. (I might second guess myself sometimes, but for the most part, I feel that the choices I make for my family are the best ones for MY family).