Don't you hate it when your friends only think about themselves? Or when your husband only talks about HIS day- and doesn't ask you about yours? I know that I am like this too- and its frustrating- why are we all so self-centered?
We just are. Men and women alike. I can suggest a book called His Needs, Her Needs that talks about why we sometimes appear self-centered. It's part of having our particular needs met, and not everyone is the same. (well, duh, but hopefully, you know what I mean.) It's a worthy read.